Of Superman and Supermom.

I've unnececessarily super sensative and super negative lately. Orang tak kacau pun. Kadang-kadang orang niat nak menolong but somehow sometimes it makes you feel like a bad mom.

In my other negative words, some mommies thought that they are sooo perfect that whatever comes out from their mouth makes you feel imperfect in so many ways..

I bend the rules with my kids to get them do things in the house, I give instant noodles, I scrutinise the way they cook giving them details that they got sick of it, I use lollipop as reward, I give breakfast and lunch combined at one go. Breakfast means digging in the fridge for bread (yes, we keep bread in the fridge) and eat it with whatever available while I still sleep. During meals, I normally eat while they help little brothers to eat and they clean up everything while I drink nescafe with dear hubby.

The bottom line is I have a looong list of things that makes me a monster mom. I know how monstrous I can be but I just hate it when people make me feel that I'm one by making certain remarks, give details on how perfect they are as moms. Maybe they are too busy collecting details to inspire other moms but the truth they do not realize how demoralizing they can be.

I vote that we should let MOMs be perfect in their kids eyes. Every mom is perfect in their own way... Try not to judge because like other monstrous moms out there.. there are also other goods things that we do that our kids idolize us soo much. We just don't shout and tell the rest of the world. PeAcE!

Of Superman and Supermom.

Barang Naik Harga, Hidup Lebih Selesa!

Dah reda dah cerita barang naik. Kalau tak tak habis-habis maki sana, maki sini. Nak komen pun tak berani hahaha.. Anyway.. harga barang naik memang tetap naik. Bayangkan, kedai kami selalu beli barang dapur pun mengeluh, apatah lagi bila dapat sayur naik, dia pun terpaksa naik harga juga.

Our lifestyle changes tremendously. Menu dah kena plan dah sekarang ni. Tak boleh nak main terjah kedai beli ikut suka hati. Portion dah kena kecilkan. Kalau dulu makan 3 kali, sekarang dah jadi 6 kali hehe.. ada snack in between.. Snack pun sesayur hahaha.. Biskut dah kena catu.. Letak bekas kecik dan letak stok di tempat tersorok hahaha..

Masak food based on what's available. Ayam sekarang potong tomyam, separuh ayam boleh dapat 3 meal.  Alhamdulillah, anak-anak sangat positif dengan perubahan baru. Snack pun jenis yang berserat tinggi macam celery, carrots, oats. Leftovers, as always, never goes to waste.

Kaylah.. nanti aii share lagi ya! Tiba2 je terberenti hehhhe

Barang Naik Harga, Hidup Lebih Selesa!

Ya Allah, Jaga Hatiku Ya Allah..

Allah mampu bolak balikkan hati kita dan memang hati kita sentiasa berbolak balik. Cuma tinggal lagi, takut nyawa kita Allah tarik semasa hati kita berubah. Na'uzubillah.

Kita tak akan lari dari diuji. Hati kita memang selalu diuji. Kalau kaya.. tentunya itu satu ujian. Kalau tak berapa nak ada pun kira diuji juga. Adakalanya hati berkata2 bila kita nampak org ada apa yang kita tak ada. Bila kita ada sesuatu, kita nampak pula apa yang ada lebih sikit dari kita. Bila kita tengok orang yang kurang dari kita, patutnya kita syukur dengan apa yang ada tapi diuji pulak dengan rasa ujub dan riak.

Pendek kata, hati itu susah. Manusia sangat mudah alpa. Syaitan tidak pernah akan putus asa mencuba menggoda. Sekarang ni memang selalu tengok cerita Charmed di HyppTv. Memang character2 demon tu sememangnya benar. Mereka akan dimarahi dan dihukum jika gagal sesuatu misi menggagalkan kebaikan. Bila misi mereka gagal, mereka takut dengan The Source (of.evil) dan kemudiannya The Source akan hantar demon lain dan menghukum demon yang gagal.

Depa tukaq shift. Kita je sorang2 kena lawan tapi selalunya lupa! hehehe

Ya Allah, bantu kami jaga hati kami, ya Allah. Biarlah hati kami dapat merasai kemanisan iman, ya Alllah. Jangan kau duga hati kami, ya Allah kerana penyakit hati itu perit, ya Allah. Penyakit hati membuat kita rasa perasaan yang penuh dengan keluh kesah ya Allah. Penyakit hati membuat kami tak nampak nikmatMu ya Allah. Amiin amiin ya robb.

Ya Allah, Jaga Hatiku Ya Allah..

So, you can build your reputation?

Well, as the title says.. you CAN build your reputation! After all it's all part of the plan. 

One thing I learnt by being part of numerous facebook groups is YES, YOU CAN BUILD YOUR REPUTATION. In fact, I guess I'd say, sometimes, people know your reputation more that you can know about your own.

I've been in many facebook groups and I left many of them as well. Not that I fought or anything but I just don't think I should be in groups without having anything to say. Sometimes I didn't know who added me and somehow I found myself having notifications about the group. 

Anyway, back to the topic, I do realize by now that reputation can be built. In fact, some choose to 'create' their reputation as experts in certain areas so they can build their reputation; which sometimes work for their businessES. I'm not saying that it isn't right, but different people have different ways of using facebook.

A word of advise though. If you create your facebook account just to do business, I'd strongly suggest that you create a page as well and create as many fans as you can. If you choose to be the 'expert' by commenting only comments relating to your business area, that is quite a strategy. The only thing is, mind your language, manners and just don't get offended if people unfriend you and bear in mind that you CAN be reported as spamming and be restricted from adding friends for a certain period of time. 

Note:
this is just a mere reflection while I unfriend some strangers whom I add because of the number of mutual friends (and it seems that that person is a total stranger) as well as some cyberfriends who I added because I met at networking sessions and found out that they spam as part of their marketing plan.

PeAce yaw!

So, you can build your reputation?

1 less.is.BAD! 2.is worse!

Sebenarnya malas nak komplen sebab sendiri yang hantar anak masuk hostel, kan? Jadinya kenapa nak komplen? Pelik pulak rasa sebab anak mcam dah berkurang 2.

Masa makin cepat berlalu.. Tak dapat bayangkan kalau anak dah keluar semua. Tinggal berdua je.. kalau tinggal berdua, kalau tinggal sorang? Mati terkedu agaknya.

Dalam rumah macam dah gila bayang. Cuma kali ni gila-gila bayang sebab nak adapt seorang lagi tak ada. Pendek kata apa saja aktiviti yang dilakukan bersama, apa saja makanan yang dimakan bersama, apa saja yang ditonton bersama, mana saja tempat yang pergi bersama, semuanya membuatkan ibu sesak nafas.

Kalau 2 tahun lepas, tak boleh nak masak.beberapa bulan, hampir setiap masakan mengalirkan air mata, tahun ni tekad untuk mencuba menu-menu baharu sebab tak sanggup nak masak makanan kegemaran mereka.

Insyaallah.. setiap kerinduan ada ganjarannya. Rindu itu satu petanda baik; tanda kami rapat sekeluarga walaupun selalunya dengan anak menyinga. Tak dapat bayangkan kalau anak pergi selama-lamanya..
I have to stop writing now.. It's too painful to continue.. Ibu rindu.. :(

1 less.is.BAD! 2.is worse!

10 Orang yang Wajar di'unfriend' di Facebook

Sejak akhir-akhir ni, macam dah macam meluat guna facebook. Apatah lagi bila negative vibes penuh kat otak. Mula la macam-macam rasa. Ini pun dah start hide and unfriend kawan-kawan yang tak berapa nak kawan. Fikir-fikir balik, kalau setakat nak add friend je, tapi tak bertegur sapa, tak reply our comment, ignore us completely macam kita tak wujud, buat apanya nak still friends. 

Dulu-dulu tak perasan. Tapi ada jugak yang jenis bila jumpa kat gathering tak pulak tegur atau beramah mesra tapi alih-alih macam dia tahu je perkembangan kita. Maknanya dia follow la kita kan tapi bila jumpa buat donno.. Macam mana boleh tahu, bila orang yang takde facebook kata dia tahu pasal kita dari sekian2..

Agak-agaknya ada kot yang add friend sebab nak sekodeng je kot. Pelik tapi benar.

Antara orang-orang yang patut kita unfriend:

1. orang yang status dia memaki tak habis-habis. Bukan takat kat wall, kat komen orang, kat wall orang pun dia siap maki hamun jugak. Memang ada tauuu.. Unfriend.

2. orang yang comment / respond pada orang lain but kita.. 
kalau sekali dua kali tu mestilah terlepas pandang, tapi kalau tiap kali kita invisible je.. maknanya tak sekufu la tu.. Unfriend..

3. Selfie banyak sangat.. Tiap hari kerjanya asyik selfie tak habis-habis. Memang takde status lain, selfie je. Daripada kita naik meluat dan mengumpat (dalam hati). Unfriend.

4. orang yang suka sentap.
Kadang-kadang kita tulis tu general je pun. Kita tulis sebab kita tengok drama ke, tengok surat khabar ke, refleksi sendiri ke, alih-alih dia melenting dan marah-marah macam kita perli dia. Toksah cari penyakit. Dia ketandusan kasih sayang tu. Unfriend.

5. Business account
akaun Facebook dia memang khas untuk meniaga. Dia akan tag sesuka hati, pm sesuka hati, add kita ke group yang tak tau pun ada kewujudannya. Kita accept request dia sebab ramai mutual friends, rupanya dengan friends friends kita pun dia add jugak. Unfriend.

6. Orang yang isterinya jenis cemburu
enough said. Unfriend.

7. Orang yang dia cakap je betul.
Orang lain punya pendapat semuanya salah. Status meroyan minta pendapat tapi semua pendapat kena tendang. Kadang-kadang, tak cukup kat wall sendiri, siap betulkan wall orang. Unfriend.

8. Orang yang suka perli
Perli.. perli.. perli.. tak habis-habis status perli.. Orang share hal kebajikan pun dia buat komen tak suka orang letak status bla bla bla. Orang share status suruh doa untuk orang syria, dia kata rimas letak violent punya status. Pendek kata, the nickname is MOCKING.. Yolah.. ekau sorang yo yang betol.. Unfriend. 

9. Orang yang sedih je memanjang
Statusnya berbungi gini..
Isnin : Sakit Kepala
Selasa : My life sucks.. kenapalah hidup aku gini
Rabu : :(
Khamis : Sakit hati orang buat macam ni tau. 
Jumaat : Panadol 2 biji.. dan ubat selsema
Sabtu : Orang lain semua jalan-jalan, aku je dok kat rumah
Ahad : Alaaa esok dah kerja..
UNFRIEND. 

10. Orang yang komplen je
Macam aku la ni sekarang masa buat entry ni. Unfriend. ;D

10 Orang yang Wajar di'unfriend' di Facebook

Browsing my recipe books (well, small part of it). If I ever gonna be organised, I think this should be the perfect area for me to start. Ever since the increase of the fuel price, things have been a bit tough, lesser customer for the cake business that we're planning an exit strategy. 

My husband is a bit superbusy lately that I have to take over buying the groceries. (yes, I don't like going out to buy because it's depressing when you have not been doing it for a while). My trips to the grocery shop is a bit upsetting. I somehow have made friends with them. It's like seeing friends instead of going to the grocery shops hahaha... Seriously.. every time I go inside, I'll greet everyone (worker) with salam. I think, some of the customers find it a bit weird but try it, it's great! I always get good service from them because of that (I guess, other than my charming smile ngeee).

Anyway, as contradicting as it sounds, it is a bit upsetting to go when it comes to the paying part. RM50 seems worthless nowadays, I can just spend it in minutes. Even the grocer agreed with me. He told me, spinach which normally costs RM4 per kg is now RM7 and they still have to mark up. I notice that the price increase is a bit too abrupt. I trust them so much that I never really bother to check the price. (Seriously). We have been buying from them since forever, and they will always tell if there's a price increase. They know we are selling cakes and they will give discount without us asking :D

Anyway, back to my recipe book, if planned, I guess, we can create hearty meals. I noticed at Pasar Malam (Night Market) in Bangi, they sell really fresh and cheap vegetables like RM5 for any 3 bunches. I just have to plan my meal so I can keep my vegetables fresh until the end of the week. Chicken is now chopped into smaller portion, divided into different parts like chicken breast (for Ayam masak Halia, spaghetti with white sauce, or chicken mushroom dip and sometimes popcorn chicken for snacking), the bony parts for soup or tom yam, the meaty ones for curry or masak lemak).

I guess, as soon as the new year starts, things are gonna be slightly more expensive because toll is gonna increase which gives a domino effect on the rest of the price. Insyaallah 2014 is gonna be a different year for me.. a busier me as I decided to be a serious blogger.. stay with me ya.. cause there will be updates on how I organise my meal..