So, What's Your Talent?

I was doing my work at a kopitiam while waiting for my husband to pick me up. Then, one of the papers just flew on the floor. The waiter bent and picked it up while balancing 2 glasses of drinks on a tray which he was holding with his other hand. I went 'whoaaa.. you're really good!'. I was really impressed! I would imagine me spilling the drinks or stopping the paper from flying by stopping it with my foot.

So, what's your talent? I taught a bunch of adults students and get them to present to the audience their partner's talent. I was surprised with the outcome. Apart from their current job, they have hobbies and other job skills. One of them can do wiring, another is good at building maintenance, while another is good at beading. An ex worker at Mc Donald's gave me tips on how to maintain the cleanliness in the kitchen and many are really good at cooking healthy homemade meals. The list goes on. One of them travels around the world through his part time job.

By the end of the presentation, I was really happy that we did that activity. It is such a boost to my morale to know that everyone is special in their own way. We just have to believe that everyone is unique and being comfortable in your own skin is important to be confident. Of course, there will be no one telling you that you are good. You just have to know it yourself!

So, What's Your Talent?

TIme Investment: One of the Best Investments for your Kids.

Okay.. I'm guilty. The way I hold my phone it's like it's glued to my hand. I've been trying to reduce this bad habits but my phone won't stop buzzing with WA and Telegram notification. Okay, I've tried muting them for a year, but I swear I could hear it buzzing.

I learn this from my son. He was reading something the other day. I asked him something, he literally and immediately closed his book, put it aside and look straight at me. I was shocked.. and mostly embarrassed. He simply put it down.  I was his centre of attention. 

I, on the other hand, will answer without even looking at my kids whenever they ask me anything. Sometimes, when this happens, I'll say.. sorry sorry.. can you please ask again, then I answered my very same answer but this time, while looking at them.

He likes helping me rinsing the dishes. He said, he loves talking to me. It's sad, because the only time I have for him is when he's helping me and my hands are too full to do something else and my minds are not cluttered as washing dishes do not require thinking.

When I had a maid, Neng, the minute my kids came back from school, they will rush straight to the maid's room. They went rushing as though they have something really important to tell. One day, I got the answer. They were so excited they forgot to close the door and I saw them around her. She was laying down on her tummy with her hands resting under her chin and her face looking excited. I was amazed. She looked as though she was watching a movie. My kids chatted happily, telling her what happened at school. Sometimes I hear them giggling. They were all looking genuinely happy.

The next day I asked her. She told me, she didn't get to go to school. She had to quit school so she loves listening to my kids telling her about their school life; friends, teachers or anything which tagged school with it.

We tend to 'know' our kids' stories because we have been there. We make assumption when our kids tell their frustrations at school and it is always our kids to be blame. We tell them to be a little bit patient a little bit of this and that but we'd rather hear ourselves talking. :(

I read somewhere, kids need to spend at least 3 minutes with us immediately after school. 3 minutes! That is way lesser than updating our facebook status. But somehow, we choose to update our status, ignoring our kids who are updating their status, live!

It's gonna be hard, beating technology,  but I have to keep on telling myself, one day, when they are all grown up, we will be the one craving for attention and if we don't invest listening to their stories, they might do exactly how we do now because that's how they are taught the way it should be. Close bonded relationship is an investment that you will never regret. The fruit is just too juicy and rewarding.

I believe, if you listen to them or spend time, they will look for you every time they have things to say; be it their excitement or problem and when the time comes when you crave for their attention, insyaallah, they'll be there for you..

TIme Investment: One of the Best Investments for your Kids.

When It's Just Another Whatsapp / Telegram Group.. *sigh*...

My phone seems cluttered with Whatsapp / Telegram Groups. Well, of course there will be a need for WA Group. It makes parent teacher communication easier as well as 'taman group', old friends' group, primary and secondary school group, and then we have hobby group and the list go on and on and on and on..

Anyway, it goes back to the very same problem.. cluttering images and videos, off-topic topics, gossip, knowledge sharing, viral news.. here it goes..

Basic Problem with the Group

1. Sharing is Caring
Sometimes too much sharing is scary. Certain secrets should remain secret and certain news need not to be shared.That's why it is called the secret!

2. When Pahala is the Main Idea
Many decide WA would be a place to spread 'ilmu yang bermanfaat', so of course, in search of that, many groups are bombarded with these 'ilmu' especially the first thing in the morning. Of course it's not wrong, it's where you share it. PTA group? Not advisable. You tend to turn people off from joining the PTA seriously!


3. Crime Awareness
Crime stories that are shared somehow will turn us into paranoids who keep clutching to our handbag the minute we pass people or worse, we'd rather stay at home instead.

4. People's Problems become Yours
We understand that helping others listening to their own problem makes us worry unnecessarily especially when the same people keep on sharing the same problem again and again and again.

5. It's No Longer Fun when the Group Belongs to Someone
Okay, of course there's a need for admin, but mostly, do you realize that each group will belong to someone. There is always A person who moderate and control the topic or even the MOOD of the group for that particular day. Think hard!

6. People No Longer Talk, They Only Share
It is sad when people no longer talk to each other, instead, people just forward messages they got from other groups. Basically, it's like having a newspaper in the Whatsapp group instead of a place where real people talk.

7. Sometimes, You Just Don't Feel Belong
Do you realize that, you can only respond to certain people as there will be people who respond to certain people only.

8. Screen Capture is a Bridge of Trust
Well, if you have a closed group, don't you think that anything in there belong there and should not be taken outside?

9. Sometimes, There Will be Discussion about this Group in the Other Group
Yup, it happens. 

10. The Scariest Thing is When it's FITNAH, and We Forward it anyway.  
A lot of things are simply not true, but because everyone seem to be sharing it, it seems true.


So, the final question: To leave or not to leave. You decide :D

When It's Just Another Whatsapp / Telegram Group.. *sigh*...

Product Review | Aloha! I love you

Diclamer: This is my personal view on the product and I am not paid to write this review. The honest opinion is all mine and no animal was hurt during the review.

 

As the title says "Aloha! I love you".. Really, I do. This is a pair of rubber shoes that is super comfy no matter how long you walk in them. Anyway, I bought this rubber shoes  at My Mydin Section 7 Bandar Baru Bangi for less than RM20 but the shoes last quite long until one day I have exhausted the sole. There's a hole in the one of the sole and whenever I used it during the rain, it will wet my socks. So, it was time for a new pair and I bought exactly the same one, this time, beige because there was no stock for black. My black one is still working for me. The sole is thick enough to give comfort and I love wearing because I have no worries on ruining them during rainy days plus you can wash them. The black colour will fade a bit in time but after a good wash, the colour will restore a bit so I guess it's basically dust.

Anyway, I did try other shoes from the same brand but alas, they do not give the same comfort compared to this one. So the good review goes to this particular model and brand.  I'd definitely but another exact pair but since I think I bought it 2 years ago, I'm not sure if they are available.

I guess, if you look closely at the beige colour, you will notice there's a paw of my nosy cat, Aswad; the love of our life! Never thought cats can really bring such joy and happiness in our lives..

 

Product Review | Aloha! I love you

Seindah Akhlakmu Ya Rasul..

Akhir-akhir ni, banyak je rancangan televisyen yang dok ceritakan pasal Rasulullah SAW. Makin kenal baginda, makin tertarik nak tahu lagi. Mysterious sungguh rasul kita ni. Banyak benda yang kita buat, kalau diniatkan betul-betul, boleh lah dapat pahala sunnat. Contohnya siwak, Rasulullah rupanya bawak kemana-mana je siwak. Kalau kita ni kira gosok gigi la. Bangun tidur, gosok gigi tu sunnah, sebelum tidur gosok gigi pun sunnah, sebelum wudhuk gosok gigi pun sunnah.

Tapi sayang kita ni gosok gigi tak niat sunnah jadi kurang lah sikit pahalanya kot. Kalau ikut sunnah gosok gigi 3 kali bahagian depan, dalam gigi, lidah dan langit-langit sekali. Serius tak pernah gosok langit-langit. Rugi kan, buat hari-hari sejak kecik-kecik lagi tapi tak ambil pahala sunnah..

Lagi kita kenal rasul, lagi kita akan rindu dengan baginda.

Seindah Akhlakmu Ya Rasul..