When we care about someone, we really think that we have the right to know every detail in that person's life especially when it involves huge decisions. Sometimes, we were not updated on the things and we get upset because we thought we deserve to know.
However, have you ever thought why people stop telling you about their life?
Try to imagine this. Someone you care most is telling you about issues at his workplace. Do you a) listen and try to figure out what happened? b) focus on his inner feelings about what is happening c) do you try to think how you can help?
Immediately after he told you everything, do you a) agree with whatever he says b) knows exactly what happens because you know him too well c) try to give solution or tips on how to solve the problem.
Most of the time, when people are sharing their problem, they are not that much concerned about how to deal with the problem. Imagine this. You have just told your friend about an issue you have at your office. Immediately after telling him, even before your friend comment on it, how do you feel? Relieved? Do you feel like the burden on your shoulder is a bit lighter?
Then, when your friend opens his mouth to comment. Depending on how your friend responded to your story, you will sometimes feel relieved that you have someone holding your back and sometimes you might feel unsatisfied as the solution that he gives is not what you expected.
When you tell someone, it is more like getting if off your chest because it burdens you.
So, why do you think people stopped telling you their issues?
Is it because you come to conclusion? Is it because without giving the opportunity to let them tell you their side of their story, you have already 'know'. Or is it because you seem to miss some important points because you just hear what you want to hear.
Do you Really Listen?
At this point of time, I got stuck. I'm a jobless desperate housewife; a Jack of all trades. Not quite sure what I plan to do but I sure does create a commotion in my family when I quit my job. My dad has been calling me at quite a schedule time not more than a week apart. My brother invited me for dinner and spent more that 3/4 of the time interrogating me about my plan. My sister was not really happy with the crazy working hour in my previous job and my other sister is content with her life at the moment that she didn't notice I've been jobless lol!
A few years back, I realised I started using the phrase "This is the hardest year so far", the years passed by and every year I used the same phrase again and again. I realised that as I grow 'older', my test was getting harder. Anyway, this year I guess is the toughest yet so far. My hands were injured during job I had to quit my job which makes my injury a bonus because the working hours was crazy without any overtime claim. I had no commission because the total of my sales did not exceed my basic pay. Apparently what they offered during job interview was different from what they practised. My computer broke down and I had to choose my last pay to fix it so I can start working from than using the last pay to buy a new phone.
My right hand was numb while my left was in pain. There was no way I could work with my hands no matter what job I intend to do. The only part of me that was still working was my brain. I thought and I thought and I thought. The more I searched for jobs at Jobstreet, the more stressed I became. Then I understood. He wants me to take a break and think what I can do best. All my previous jobs were only part of my journey. The destination would come now. All I have to do is T.H.I.N.K. What do you think?
I notice that I tend to blink looking at
The Hardest Time
