Sunday, December 27, 2009

Budget Adjustment every Year!


Haziq is starting school next year.. Each time my child enrolls in school, I get really nervous even though we survived each time so far. It's not that bad, really, but then we tend to forget how Allah grants each and everyone of us with our own rezeki.


This year, for my budget adjustment, I'm trying my luck at sewing my daughters uniform. I'm definitely not fond of sewing but then I decided to try as the price of school uniform nearly gave me a heart attack.. Her baju kurung alone costs RM20.00 and that does not include her 'kain' and 'tudung'. After a few trips to different stores, it's gonna cost us RM200++ for Nurul alone. Last year's uniform is not gonna help either.. She needs blue uniform this year.. [sigh]..


When I look back the past years, we managed because we adjusted our lifestyle. Some things are really hard to let go but in the act of survival, we managed to change our lifestyle tremendously. I've heard some of my friends tell me it's okay for me as I can bake. The truth is, baking was one of the lifestyle that we had to change.


I started with finding recipes for friends, I ended up trying the recipe and sell eventually. There was a time when the profit of my cake went straight to the grocery store leaving my money just enough for the next cake to sell. There was a time when I had sleepless night catering my friends' order. I had to sneak at 4 or 5 o'clock in the morning to finish decorating the cakes. It was a blessing from Allah. I can never thank Him enough.. Here are the things that we adapted. Hopefully it will help you too. Or perhaps if you don't even have to change your lifestyle.. it will help you count your blessings. Alhamdulillah...


1. Eat in instead of Eat Out

Even if you are too lazy to cook, you can cook rice and buy the 'kuah' and 'lauk'. When i didn't know how to cook back then, it was always, 'telur masak kicap', 'ikan masak kicap', 'telur masak taucu', 'ikan masak taucu'. The list didn't change for quite some time. You'll save a lot since you don't spend on drinks and rice. Even if you don't have children, it'll save you almost RM6.00.


2. Stop Watching Movies, Go to the Playground instead.

With the popcorn and drinks, my family will spend RM50.00 for a trip. We managed to get our kids to wait until it is aired on tv or buy the CDs. We now regularly go to the playground at Cempaka Lake, Bangi, armed with skipping ropes and Rollerblades. We even bring 2 tumblers of chilled water from the fridge. We only spend RM6 for ice cream on the way home and yet happier with the adrenalin rush..


3. If you really Need to Buy, Postpone at least 5 Minutes

I used to want things immediately and realize at the end that I don't really need it. Some things can be postponed. If you have the urge to buy, walk pass it and if you still want it when you are about to check out at the counter, you might need it. If not, it's probably your own desire..


4. Only Buy New Clothes if You don't have Enough

Shopping is just so relaxing.. Be extra careful when it's on sale. Most of the time we spend on clothes that we don't really need. How often have you bought a 'tudung' without having anything to match? You end up having to buy a new blouse just to match the 'tudung'.


5. Go ahead, jot it down!

Have you ever calculated how your money just slipped through your fingers? I once jotted down everything I spent for three whole months, typed it in Excel and found out exactly where I spent. You'll be surprised just to know where you spent and where you can save. This is a must-try tip!


6. Explain to your Kids! Don't Lie when You can't Afford it!

This used to be tough but then we were determined to let them know the truth! My kids were frustrated that we don't want to buy PS2. Everyone seems to have it and they are sick and tired of the braggings they heard at school. We even went to the store to check out the price. We explained how we have to spend the money on other important thing. The bottomline is, do tell your kids and don't just be shy to admit if you can't afford it. I've heard parents lie "Kedai ni tak jual", "Benda ni dah rosak" and sometimes ask the shopkeeper to lie for them and it makes me sad.


7. Believe in Allah

Allah has promised that each and everyone will have their own rezeki. I had a hard time telling my kids how rezeki comes in different forms. It need not be money. Being a part time teacher at my son's kindy gave me free enrollment which normally costs me RM300++, having good neighbours may mean spending less on vacation and having my baking skill polished by attending demo classes is a gift from Allah, enough to save me a lot with my family of 7.




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Saturday, December 19, 2009

My Very 1st Malaysian Babywearers Gathering!

I was a bit shy to come at the beginning actually but then the other members of the forum kept on encouraging newbies to come.. It was great.. I'm into wraps.. I just love the closeness of the baby to me. Since one of the topics was going to be on backcarries, I braved myself. (can remember myself being a shy person hehe but meeting up a bunch of new people definitely makes me nervous!)

I was a bit late, we were stuck in the jam.. Though I managed to get Ila to join, I was still a bit nervous. However, once you are in it, there's no turning back. You somehow blend with the environment.

We had no worries about the baby crying or having to stand while they talk if the baby does cry. What I enjoyed most, apart of the babywearing was the food of course.. hehe.. What impressed me most is the fact that the husbands were all patiently waiting while waiting for their older kids.. My husband was at the Mamak Stall with the rest of the clan.

If you look at the pix, you can actually see they simply stash everything there for us to try. Most of them are personal stuff (thanks guys.. I enjoyed trying the Vatanai.. terdiam la sekejap because my 6.1kg baby seems weightless in it compared to my DIY Jersey knit..). I wish baby Muhammad did not sleep. I was really eager to try out the SSC as well as the Mei Tai..

Why am I writing this? I'm hoping all newbies to join. It's a great experience and I'm hoping to join more gathering after this. So, the next step is to brave myself to drive myself or to get a GPS though.. So, newbies.. I quote what Adriana said yesterday.. "Babywearing is addictive!" Couldn't agree more! so, join us in the next gathering ya!
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Thursday, December 10, 2009

It's Friday! I should be happy!

It's Friday.. by right i should be happy.. somehow i woke up this morning feeling completely lost.. i can't even say it with words right now.. glad a friend is coming to share some babywearing tips.. tidied the house in 30 minutes.. it's not super clean.. but presentable.. hopefully the company will cheer me up..
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Monday, December 7, 2009

Phew! What a Hectic Weekend!

It's Monday Blues.. Finally, I had my rest today, luckily baby Muhammad was really clingy, he insisted I sleep with him.. My kids said I was snoring in my sleep. The whole two weeks before was gone in a flash practising for kindy konvo, making my tree costume and preparing Raja Namrud's snake cane which didn't look much like a snake.. the tongue went missing when the kids used it in pole fencing when I was busy conducting for my Medley..

On Saturday, we went to Nilai to buy butterfly corsage before heading to Muar for my school mate's wedding. On the way home, we managed to be at Azly's college's wedding just before 5.. Dinner was all the goodies we collected from the two weddings. Alhamdulillah..

The very next day was another hectic Sunday. Konvo started around 8.30a.m and ended at 12.30. After helping with the clearing up, we had nasi lemak provided by school and took a nap which was more like sleeping to me.. Though the next agenda, usrah at my sis' house in Bandar Tasik Puteri was supposed to start at 5, we started our journey just before 5 bracving ourselves through the jam..

Everything went by in a flash.. By 10.30pm... we were at home soundly asleep..
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Saturday, November 28, 2009

A Pix that Saves a Frienship! Alhamdulillah...

I either misplaced it or threw it! I remember putting it somewhere for my husband to send for photocopying and that was it! I know it's a matter of time before my friend ask about the loaned paper cutting.. I didn't know whether to confess or search for it when I discover that the clipping was missing. I ended up cleaning up my bill and threw all the unnecessary paperwork from school 2 years ago.. and still I couldn't find it.

Yesterday.. she 'sms'ed me and asked for the paper cutting.. My heart skipped a beat.. I didn't reply hoping that miracle will happen.. I searched for the last time upstairs and ended up clearing more clutter but there was still no sign of the paper cutting.. all the paper cuttings left were all mine..

so, this morning .. I tried my ultimate solution, which was suggested by my husband 2 months ago, I searched the web... I could not remember any of the information from the cutting.. so I just typed in the relevants words.. but no avail.. there's no point doing that.. there were thousands and thousands of articles related to Shah Alam!

My last hope.. I showed my husband the clipping that I snapped when I first got the article, hoping that he would recall if he had seen that article.. suddenly.. a miracle did happen and I thank Him for that.. When I zoomed the photo, I could actually see the exact date and the exact newspaper! Voila! Using the archive from the newspaper online.. my husband managed to find it and sent the link straight to mail.. as soon as I publish this post! To my friend.. ( i think she knows it's her story.. thank you and sorry! I just didn't have the guts to tell you myself earlier.. not that I don't wanna be honest.. but I really treasure our friendship.. losing something that really matters to you might just show the opposite.. so please accept my apology.. I really hope you don't mind getting the article back in soft copy... (I'll print out for you [malu nih]..)..

Alhamdulillah...
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Friday, November 20, 2009

My New Obsession - Babywearing!

I've been wanting to update my blog.. in fact, I have signed in soo many times but I just signed out without doing anything.. The pic shows why! This is my very first wrap and i can assure you this is not gonna be the last!

Despite the number of kids that I have.. this is the very first time I know about baby wearing.. it all started with the word "sling", one site leads to another, i started making my own pouch sling, my DIY flannel wrap and started browsing the net to find more about the slings.. Then, I noticed a lot of mommies selling handmade pouches and sling online with Malaysian Baby Wearers logo.


There's even a term for that! B.A.B.Y.W.E.A.R.I.N.G! I love it! Wear your baby! yeay! This is no kangaroo bag you know.. there are many many ways to wear your baby.. and the list of acronym is long enough to make a table runner hahaha..


There more I read.. the more obsessed I become.. Irfan, my-3-year-old son always chuckles when he becomes the subject of my experiments..


I wish I can write more.. but I'm reading about this back carry with wraps! see ya!

Wanna catch up with me? http://malaysianbabywearers.org/.. If you are obsessed.. just don't put the blame on me :)

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Friday, November 6, 2009

Err.. Bukan Khurafat ke Tu?


Went to the clinic the other day with my 2-month-old baby. After 2 brothers had been infected, it was now his turn.. Poor thing.. he had been clingy since 2 days before..


An elderly woman with her grandson smiled at me.. Once she knew it's chicken pox, she offered me her remedy.. to bath Muhammad with water from young coconut.. Why didn't I think of that? I dare not give him coconut water but to bath or sponge bath him with it is a totally different story.. I thanked her... the next remedy was really scary for me..


"Taknya ambil colok cina, asap-asapkan badan dia.. dulu pakai kemenyan.. sekarang ni pakai colok cina je boleh".. I could not compute.. Will the smoke from the joss stick help killing the virus? I stammered when I asked her why.. She answered "Ye la.. asal chicken pox tu kan dari H*****, kalau dulu kena pergi kuil, minta ubat boleh baik.. "


I was shocked.. dalam hati.. "er bukan khurafat ke tu?" but the question remained in my heart. I dared not tell her my piece of mind as it can be really offensive if you don't know how to do it properly. What came to my mind at that time was, if you are asking help from other than Allah, silap-silap haribulan boleh syirik.. apatah lagi meminta dari orang yang menyembah selain dari Allah.. Na'uzubillaahi min zalik!


Anyway.. when I was on my way home.. I regretted myself for not blurting the question out.. Or was it enough just to reprimand quietly.. itulah selemah-lemah iman..

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Sunday, November 1, 2009

What a Trip!

I was driving, my husband was not around, when suddenly I heard one soft voice from behind.. "Ibu, jom pergi Jusco" (Ibu, let's go to Jusco). I knew sooner or later, they will ask me to go to the mall. They know that this is definitely not my husband's favourite activity..



I was nervous.. Can I really single-handedly take care of my 5 kids. There was a long pause. I did my calculation, baby Muhammad will be in my arms secured tightly with my version of Moby Sling. My 8-year-old daughter will be in charged of the 3-year-old son and my eldest son, 10 will be with his buddy, 6-year-old Haziq. I glanced at the car clock.. It was 10.45.. by the time I reach there, it'll be around 11.. Still early..



I decided to make an agreement.. I laid out a very long list of rules.. Strictly no straying, no walking alone, Nurul will always have to walk in front of me.. blah blah blah or else.. "Or else?", my son asked.. THIS WILL BE THE LAST TRIP TO JUSCO.. Everyone held their breath.. I had their words but I just kept quiet. They know if they keep on pastering me, they have no hope so they were all in silence..



Just before I reached the junction that separates my home and the mall, I decided to give it a try.. they were thrilled..



I didn't dare walking around the mall. We stopped at the nearest bench in the mall, put baby Muhammad in his sling and we walked straight to Jusco Playland. As agreed, they went from game to game in groups.. and finally they spent a looongg time at the Sand Art Station. My eldest helped the youngest peeling the stickers. It kept them occupied for a long time while I bond with baby Muhammad.

Then, we had a quick tour to the kitchen department, Popular book store and went straight to have our regular ice cream. It was a three-hour-trip without us realizing it. Alhamdulillah.. everyone went home happy..
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Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Why I'm so Addicted to 'Bejewelled Blitz'


I've been spending hours in front of the PC, playing 'Bejewelled'. Even my kids are excited too. In fact, they are now starting to play. At first, I really thought it is just a matter of swapping gems until I finally decided what was so addictive about it.


This afternoon, as soon as Haziq heard me playing it, he quickly rushed to watch me playing.. 'Wah! Hebatlah ibu' (You're really good!). I realized that the reward was not really the high score, but it was the positive reinforcement! I just couldn't help enjoying the phraises, "Good", "Incredible", "Excellent"... The more you hear those magical words, the more gems you tend to swap.. the more excited my son became.


It's a bit ironic with the fact that we love being acknowledged for our accomplishment but we somehow fail to give acknowledment to those who deserve credit. I'm really sad when my son has to ask me "Do I behave today?", failing to give credit to him that he has to ask. So, in this short entry, I'm making myself a 'Bejewelled' pledge.. "Acknowledge Others the Way You Like to be Acknowledged.." :P

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Saturday, October 24, 2009

Hunting for the Perfect Sling

Finally my confinement is over.. and now I'm really busy hunting for the perfect sling for Muhammad. Moby Wrap, Pouch Sling.. not forgetting the nursing cover. The thing is, this sling is just sooo expensive to buy. After a long time browsing the net (that's why I haven't been updating this blog), I decided to stick to my maid's "flannel kain gendong". It's amazing how the westerners mothers are also using "kain gendong". I remember using one in Langkawi, my 4th child was cranky being too tired going here and there, I bought myself one "batik lepas" and started carrying him. I could see that I suddenly became the centre of attention compared to those gamelan players at Kota Mahsuri. Then, I started talking like Indonesian to my husband (kikikik.. lagilah orang tengok, I just love the attention hehe)

My previous search was on nursing cover.. or called hooter hider. breastfeeding blankets and god knows what else they call it. I managed to sew my own but because I got the ideas from websites from overseas, I really had trouble trying to find the material here. "D-ring", for instance is called "buckle" here and "boning" had to be substituted with material used for stiffening shirt collar. It's still half way because I've been searching here and there for the material needed.. Maybe I'll just post the pics when they are ready!

As I was browsing the net, I could see some nursing mothers eventually became WAHM (working at home mothers), selling different types of sling, crafts etc etc etc. I bet all of them started when they were browsing the net for the perfect sling and nursing cover..

Will I be one of them? hahaha.. maybe I'll just stick to training. [wink wink]

Till we meet again! Assalamualaikum..
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Thursday, October 15, 2009

Good bye, My Friend.. You will be Remembered!


It was noon when I realized that I have one unread sms. After a couple of sleepless nights, it took me quite a while to comprehend.. A friend of mine when I was teaching in Setapak Indah passed away. I called some friends to find out what time was the funeral. Nobody answered the phone. I guess it was a bit too late..


Even if I knew earlier, I couldn't have gone there myself, with the baby and my other son around. I couldn't possibly drive with the baby and the car seat which has not been installed. When I finally received a friend's call about 45 mins later, they were on the way to the cemetery.


I could still remember seeing her for the first time during Monday school assembly. The students 'oohhed' her when the principal introduced. Right after the assembly, we greeted her, welcoming the new member of the English Panel. I asked her whether she knew why the students greeted that way.. She sheepishly shook her head.. I told her it was her groovy polaroid spectacles against the sun! "Ooohh".


I remember being with her at the library, talking my heart out about me quitting my job and complaints about the workload I received .. and I certainly remember how she was eager to plan the 'Info Hunt' for her librarians.. She was more than happy to help me during Scavenger Hunt at the hall. When I got my transfer, she gave me a 'Tiger's Eye' pendant.


Of course the thing that I remember most about her is the fact that she called herself "A Ticking Bomb". She had high blood pressure.. but what is most critical about her blood pressure is hers can go really high without any symptom at all. No dizziness, no headache, no nothing! Yet, she didn't seem to worry about it. It was almost like she was joking. That was in 2004.


Her death makes me think and ponder whether or not I am fully prepared to embrace death. I really want to be a good muslim, but then most of the time, I'm busier making life here as comfortable as I can, and tend to forget my responsibilities as a Muslim. Often I wonder, whether my kids are taught enough about praying, fasting and aurat as well as other important elements in case I die. What about the sins we do towards others. What about repentance or taubat? Aine was only 34.. and my friends told me she went to school the days before like any other day.. and that made everyone really shocked.. you will be remembered Aine.. in my heart..




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Sunday, October 11, 2009

Stressed Out! I guess...

I think I'm a little stressed out. Maybe a few days with my new sleeping schedule tires me.. or perhaps there's something that's bothering me..

I watched Oprah this morning and shocked to hear that throughout America, a lot of mothers get addicted to Meth. Iniatially, they just wanted to try once but somehow got hooked up. Initially Meth made them feel alive and active. One of the mothers confessed that she wanted a cleaner house and noticed that after taking meth, she could clean up the house double time and still had all the energy.. until she found out that she needed higher dose to make her feel high and to give the same effect it had on her earlier.

Weeks later, she seemed to lose it all.. She became aggressive and could not even play mom.. And after 16 months cleared of meth, she still has the urge to use meth.

I am stressed out but not to the extend of doing anything like that. But I do notice, when I decided to declutter my house and try to be as perfect as I can, I tend to develop this constant worrying about everything. The victims are of course my kids. With the lack of sleep, and the English modules that I'm eager to finish (I'll be training next year, insyaallah.. free lance but I haven't really look for any job hehe) as well as the clutter to clear, I think I'm not being fair to myself..

Lately, I have the tendency to have all this craving of pie, tarts, cookies and cakes. The thing is the craving is not only to taste it but to bake.. So, until I bake what I crave, I get a little bit upset with it.

Perhaps it's the confinement thing that stresses me. The fact that I can't go out of the house. I'm just lucky my 4th child is at home with me together with the baby.. At least I have someone to talk to. I think once in a while all of us do get stressed.. Hopefully, I'm able to destress positively..
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Monday, October 5, 2009

A Trip from the Hospital (1-month check up), Congrats Baby Muhammad!

Alhamdulillah.. after my 1-month check up with my gynae, we went straight to see the baby's doc. While waiting for my turn at the gynae's clinic, Muhammad had fed and filled up his diaper.. (he really thought it's a sovenir for his doctor). Carefully keeping the angpow Muhammad received for raya (yes! it was my doctor who delivered him who gave him the angpow, I wish I can tell you the name.. hehe), we went straight to the washroom to change..

We were the first patient.. I was even jovial than baby Muhammad when the doctor congratulated him for fully breastfeeding for the whole month (okay okay.. not fully fully.. I think the nurse managed to give him 3 feeds argggh!). He actually said "Tak ramai baby yang cerdik nak menyusu.. ada yang ilmu tak cukup, sebulan, susu dah kering..).

He gave us a few tips on breastfeeding as well as nappy rash

#1 Make sure you empty each breast by letting him feed for at least 30 minutes, if you keep on switching breasts whenever he cries, he will still feel hungry as he is feeding on the foremilk (which quench the thirst) from both breasts. It's the hind milk that gives him the fat he needs)..

#2 Since Muhammad's skin seems to be a bit sensitive, he suggests changing the diapers often or change to napkin. He did mention some parents buy really expensive diapers and avoid changing it often.. to save... hehe. Despite tonnes of diapers advertisement which promote their good ventilation.. he suggests buying the cheaper ones but change often.. This is my second brand.. and I notice that his rashes seems to be near the guard..

I do change the diaper quite often but I have to admit.. whenever he is a bit tired or colicky, I tend to let him sleep because the minute I change the diaper, he will wake up and I have to put him back to sleep and it's like a never ending story.. Bad mummy!

My sis-in-law came yesterday and suggested using 'tepung ubi' (tapioca flour), and the next morning, I could see the rashes not as angry as the night before.. maybe I should but (should have asked her some of hers so I can start immediately). In fact, I did use tapioca flour when I had my first son.. as suggested by my sister.. but totally forgotten about it!

Before we went out of the doctor's room, we were told that he weighs 4.00kg.. wow! he was born 2.5kg.. That's 1.5kg-weight-gain.. so.. who says breastmilk is not enough? anyone?

Congratulation Baby Muhammad.. I really enjoy your company during this confinement and the best part is, when you gain 1.5kg, I lost more kgs in producing the milk plus the fact that the womb contracts to be back to it's size every time you feed. Alhamdulillah.. Allah knows best!
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Thursday, October 1, 2009

Baby Universal Language according to Priscilla Dunstan

Watching Oprah for half an hour the other day helps me dealing with my baby. Amazing as it sounds, it's even more amazing when you practice it in real life. According to Priscilla Dunstan, babies have been trying to communicate with us with the only means of communication they have.. crying.. and believe it, IT WORKS! Don't get too excited though, if you don't react to these cry.. the sound of cries will definitely change. Trust me...

I remember having my first newborn during one night when he really cried the whole night. We tried almost everything to make him stop not knowing what actually bothered him from changing the diapers, rocking him back and forth, passing him to my husband again and again, asking / whispering anxiously. The next day, I read up my baby book and found out that everything we did made him stressed even more. Despite the number of kids I have now, I have never knew about this and how I wish I knew sooner... but it might not be too late for you!



According to Priscilla (she has photographic hearing), there are 5 distinguished sounds baby make and these cries really work wonders in making mommies understand what their babies want. Here they are..

1. 'Neh' - I'm hungry.. feed me..

This sound is produced because of the sucking reflex baby has. When a baby sucks, he will put his tongue to the palate causing them to produce the 'neh' sound.

My Own Reflection:
I only heard this sound only once.. This is because, I notice that baby Muhammad makes this tiny soft squeek when he wants to feed and I quickly react to this immediately until one day I was too busy and quite far from him, I didn't realize until he cried the 'Neh' sound really loud I was shocked! he he..

2. 'Owh' - I'm sleepy..

I bet you can guess.. the fact that when baby gets sleepy, he yawns and tends to produce this cry.. This is because he cries with his lips shaped like an "o"..

My Own Reflection:
I never really heard this sound.. to be honest with you. I guess baby Muhammad feeds all the time and dozes off as he feeds.. So, he never really needs to tell me that..

3. 'Heh' - Change Me

This cry shows discomfort. Check his diapers or sometimes he's just cold..

My Own Reflection:
Baby Muhammad always make the 'heh' 'heh' 'heh' sound.. and if I don't change his diapers fast.. he'll start a very looonnggg 'hhheeeeeeehhhh' sound. When I hear this sound, I quickly check his diapers, it's either wet or filled with stool that makes him feel unconfortable. Baby Muhammad feeds totally on breastmilk, so he needs to be changed quite often as breastmilk is easily digested.

If the diaper is okay, I'll check his hands and feet if they are cold and I wrap him in a blanket (swaddle- bedung la tu)

4. 'Eh' - Burp me

This cry is from the baby trying to burp himself and it's normally higher pitched because it comes from the chest.. Just put him on your chest and try to burp him..

My Own Reflection:
I do notice that this sound is produced while he looks uncomfortable.. I notice that baby Muhammad tends to be more restless compared to when he makes the 'heh' sound. I normally pick him up quickly and try to put him on my shoulder.. and now I make a habit of burping him after every feeds.. I tend to hear this sound lesser and lesser when I do this..

5. 'Eairh' - Lower gas

This cry sounds like you trying to pass motion.. if you know what I mean..

My Own Reflection:
Baby Muhammad cries this sound together with the in-pain expression.. He'll just frown and his face will be reddish. He'll be squirming and kicking at the same time.. When I look at all these three things, I know exactly what to do.. I'll rub eucalyptus oil (minyak kayu putih) on his tummy.. pick him up, put him on my cheat and rub his back..

You might want to read Dunstan System pdf booklet to understand better..go to the link below.. and you can really hear the sound if you go to the youtube link.

http://www.dunstanbaby.com/cms/uploads/dunstan/ComprehensiveBooklet.pdf
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_IRQc2hOiKE
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Theme Song Jejak Rasul 15

Asma Allah
by Sami Yusuf
Lyric by Bara Kherigi

Please listen to this song! Semoga Allah bukakan pintu rahmatNya kepada kita.. Amin




Raheem, Kareemun, 'Adheem, 'Aleemun, Haleem, Hakeemun, Mateen
(Merciful, Generous, Incomparably Great, All-KnowingForbearing, Wise, Firm)

Mannaan, Rahmaanun, Fattaah, GhaffaarunTawwaab, Razzaaqun, Shaheed
(Bestower of blessings, Most Compassionate, Opener, ForgiverAccepter of Repentance, Provider, Witness)

Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad, wa aali MuhammadYa Muslimeen sallou 'alayh
(O my Lord send salutations upon MuhammadAnd upon the Family of MuhammadO Muslims, send salutations upon him)

Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad, wa sahbi MuhammadYa Mu'mineen sallou 'alayh
(O my Lord send salutations upon MuhammadAnd upon the Companions of MuhammadO believers, send salutations upon him)

Lateef, Khabeerun, Samee', BaseerunJaleel, Raqeebun, Mujeeb
(Gentle, All-Aware, All-Hearing, All-SeeingMajestic, Watchful, Responsive)

Ghafur, Shakourun, Wadud, Qayyumun Ra'uf, Saburun, Majeed
(Forgiving, Appreciative, Loving, Self-Existing by Whom all subsistMost Kind, Patient, Most Glorious)

Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad, wa aali MuhammadYa Muslimeen sallou 'alayh
(O my Lord send salutations upon MuhammadAnd upon the Family of MuhammadO Muslims, send salutations upon him)

Allahumma salli 'ala Muhammad, wa sahbi MuhammadYa Mu'mineen sallou 'alayh
(O my Lord send salutations upon MuhammadAnd upon the Companions of MuhammadO believers, send salutations upon him)

Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar, La Ilaaha Illahu, Al Malikul Quddoos
(God is Greater, God is GreaterThere is no god but Him, the King, the Most Holy)

Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar, Ya Rahmanu irham dha'fana
(O Most Compassionate! Have compassion on our weakness)

Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar, Ya Ghaffaaru ighfir thunoubana
(O Forgiver! Forgive our sins)

Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar, Ya Sattaaru ostour 'ouyoubana
(O Concealer! Conceal our defects)

Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar, Ya Mu'izzu a'izza ummatana
(O Bestower of honour! Bestow honour on our Ummah)

Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar, Ya Mujeebu ajib du�aa'ana
(O Responsive One! Answer our prayers)

Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar,Ya Lateefu oltof binaa (x3)
(O Gentle One! Show gentleness to us)Oltof binaa(Show gentleness to us)
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Monday, September 28, 2009

Still Learning to be a Mom..

That's what they say.. Teacheable two, terrible three... and I agree.. totally..

Last weekend, a relative of my husband came over.. and that was when I realized something has to be done before it's too late! At the beginning, my son was playing a good host with his second cousin.. until I asked him to share his cars.. (if only I didn't ask him to bring down his cars but then, that made me realize how big the problem is.. hehe). I was very much convinced that he was really good at sharing.. because before that he was sharing his puzzle, toys and stuff from the basket.

He was trying to attach his 'hotwheel' to make a complete track when the 1-year-old boy tried to join.. I was busy chatting to even pay attention to him. I didn't even realize he took down the 'hotwheel', if I knew, I would have asked him to keep it upstairs because it takes space! The last thing I know, he was screaming to the boy and cried.. then, I was the next target.. and he knows I don't normally scold my kids in front of guests.. Aha! Smart boy.. He needed to test his theory and he did in in front of a line of spectators...

Our Rule
#1 Anything can't be shared will be confiscated!
(Disebabkan ayahanda marah, harta ayahanda akan dirampas seluruhnya!)

Everyone in this house knows perfectly well of this.. so, my boy was screaming his heart out trying to abolish this rule.. I could see my cousin pretending to read the recipe book (I bet she read the same ingredients again and again without really capturing the words.. he he) and I really didn't want to give in. This is a test, remember..

Their rule:
#2 Don't even think of testing the rules in front of Big Daddy... you'll never win..

The "test" went on with a lot of staring.. crying.. (I was crying inside of course, trying to hide my embarrassment) foot stumping.. wailing.. sobbing.. but I still insisted not to give back his toys.. He will think that all those action will win whatever toys confiscated... Alang-alang malu.. biarlah malu terus.. After all, my cousin has 4 kids.. I bet she has gone through this.. The thing is .. my auntie was there too.. but I really salute her because she didn't even interfere like grannies always do..

This was hard.. I kept glancing at the clock.. my husband still hasn't come back from Friday prayers.. Then, it was time for my test.. "Eh, Nurul, abah dah balik ke?" I asked my daughter.. There was a pause in his crying and he even stopped crying at least until he found out that my husband was not home..

At this point.. after a few painstaking minutes, my husband did come back... I was jumping up and down (in my mind!) That shows how in control I am when it comes to my kids.. [sigh] but then, I really don't like punishing or even scolding my kids in front of people..

Still their rule
#3 Act nice in front of Big Daddy
I know instantly.. this test is over the minute the sound of my husband's car was heard.. He was in his normal behaviour pretending like nothing happened.. My auntie said "Dah penat nangis agaknya".. I smiled "Taklah.." then I pointed at my husband.. "oooooh"..

My other cousin asked me.. "Selalu macam ni ke?" and I guess you know the answer "tak langsung, saja test la tu..."

Suddenly my memory flashed back my very first child, wailing at the supermarket years ago.. in attempt to get what he wanted.. What I did was move a few feet away to let him take the embarrasment alone.. At the end of the day, he was embarrassed, he didn't even get the things that he wanted, the shopping trip was cancelled.. we went home immediately and he was scolded in the car! That comes to my next rule..

Our rule
#4 Never give in no matter how embarrass you are.. if you intend to win the next few battles..

Believe me.. once they know they can control you.. they will control you.. It's really easy to bribe or give them what they want when they are still young as cheap toys can free you.. but imagine 10-15 years from now..

My rule.. pleeeassse don't follow the first part of the rule : (
#5 After you have finished blabbering when the guests are gone, don't forget to talk him out when both of you have cooled down..

It's really hard not to piss off.. I really pissed off this time.. The minute the guests were gone.. I really nagged.. blah blah blah.. I know it is not effective at all.. but then, I'm a normal human being.. I NAGGED A REALLY LONG NAG! I avoided my son for the whole day and by night I know he was really sad by me ignoring him.. and he knew he caused it.. Though we made up earlier.. shaking hands apologizing and kissing.. I held grudges. (it was bad of me, I know but then I needed some space)..

The very next day, I talked to him nicely.. telling him how upset I was when he threw tantrum.. I know this is not over yet.. but in the meantime, I'll find ways to make things better.. Isn't that part of my job as a mom? Wish me luck!
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Thursday, September 24, 2009

Post Natal Blues

After almost 20 days, I give up on staying at home. I really am a people person.. being confined in my home is killing me.. The kids are really bored I know, but they make the best out of everything.. with the PC being banned for them (they fought over it!), and the remote control in my hand most of the time.. they really need a break..

So, yesterday, all of us went for a car ride.. around town. Of course there was no jam yet! Most of the shops are open.. even Czip Lee was open.. I was really tempted to ask my husband to stop.. but then knowing much too well that I can be tempted by anything.. I went into the car with sarong.. so there's no way I could stop anywhere.. he he

The air-con was really cooperative.. it went down.. so.. I managed to burn a lot of calorie in the 1-hour-sauna in the car.. My sarong was wet and my allergy caused by the c-section plaster keep me occupied for the rest of the day.. scratching.. ha ha ha..

Though it's a privilege for most women to have their confinement.. I think I'm gonna go crazy soon.. Confinement after a caesarean section is basically not a confinement at all.. I can't "bertungku" or have regular massage.. and movement has to be restricted. God knows what really happens under the skin..

Really hope I can be as positive as I can.. I have no choice! At least I have the feeding to keep me occupied.. I'm good at it! Spoiling my kids.. giving all sorts of excuses to carry Muhammad.. Now he's crying! he he.. Chiow!
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Sunday, September 20, 2009

Selamat Hari Raya!

Alhamdulillah.. this is the very first time celebrating raya at our own place.. All this while, we have been celebrating at my husband's and my 'kampung' alternately. So this year, my second attempt to make my own 'rendang' somehow works! This time, I quickly jot down the recipe! (the first attempt was a success as well but then I really could not remember which recipe I used! [sigh]).. Azly actually queued for almost an hour yesterday to buy 'lomang' to eat with my rendang.. Of course I only eat the 'rendang' with nasi impit.. using a friend of mine tips on using our own plastic.. he he he.. of course everyone else prefer 'lemang' sob sob...

I think my phone bill is gonna plummet this month.. been calling friends, family to wish them raya. I didn't manage to make any cookies this year.. luckily a friend of mine came with 3 big packets of 'kerepek' (all almost gone), my mom gave us 'maruku' (which is finished even before raya even near).. and I bought 3 packet of my favourite "batang buruk" which will have to wait for me to finish it after confinement..

My husband and the boys (except for little Muhammad) all went to Surau for raya prayers.. surrounded by almost 300 bangladeshis.. of course their takbir is different which gives them a different feeling from our raya at 'kampung'..

My parents came this morning with my youngest sister.. all packed with food and goodies.. Not that I didn't want to go to house.. but my flabby tummy keeps on pressuring the stiches that I dare not stay too long in the car..

I think that's it for now... Have a very safe raya! Stay away from fire crackers and please please please recite doa before you hit the road.. Accidents have been reported every day since 3 days before raya.. and you DON'T want to be part of the statistics!
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Thursday, September 17, 2009

Tips Melatih Anak Puasa


Masa menunggu di hospital masa check-up, risau tengok budak-budak asyik makan snack.. Yelah.. makan biskut dan coklat.. Masa di Tesco hari tu pun sama.. tengok budak-budak selamba je makan chips. Orang jual ice-cream pun syok dok standby tepi mini playground... tapi belumlah nampak orang makan ice-cream lagi.

Ada yang bertanya bagaimana nina melatih anak berpuasa.. Haziq, masa 4 tahun dah puasa penuh.. thanks to his teachers who have been supportive.. Irfan pun sebenarnya tengah belajar puasa.. Bukan belajar puasa as in puasa tetapi dia sedang berlatih memahami konsep puasa..

Let me just share with you how we did it! Sebenarnya.. bila dah faham, mereka sendiri yang mahu berpuasa.. Sebenarnya memang tak sampai hati nak tengok mereka berlapar tapi lama-lama mereka biasa..

Here are the tips:

#1 Tanamkan azam berpuasa sebelum Ramadhan tiba
Jangan tunggu bila bulan puasa baru nak ajar.. Beberapa bulan sebelum puasa dah ada countdown.. menunggu-nunggu ketibaan Ramadhan.. Ceritakan tentang pahala berpuasa dan rahmat yang Allah sediakan semasa bulan puasa.. Pasang lampu lip lap menyambut puasa, bukan menyambut raya!

#2 Kejutkan anak bangun sahur
Irfan (3 tahun masa artikel ni ditulis) hari pertama memang bangun sahur.. Hari kedua dan ketiga dia geleng kepala tak nak. Tapi sebelum tidur.. memang cakap dengan dia.. pujuk dia bangun sahur.. Hari keempat sampai sekarang memang dia tak pernah miss sahur.. siap bertambah-tambah nasi!

#3 Beri salam dan 'cheer' kerana bangun sahur
Selalunya bila mereka bangun sahur, nina akan bagi salam setiap seorang yang bangun sahur. Semua orang cheer irfan (wah! irfan bangun sahur! siap tepuk-tepuk lagi!)sebab dia yang baru belajar bangun sahur. Jadi dia suka!

#4 Baca doa masa sahur..
Kami memang baca doa makan.. dan ada doa 'special' untuk sahur. "Sahaja aku makan sahur untuk menghilangkan lapar dan dahaga di bulan puasa kerana Allah Ta'ala". Jadi dah ada mind set..dah sahur, insyaallah tak lapar masa puasa nanti dan yang ini, memang Allah bantu, cubalah!

#5 Makanan biar simple, janji anak suka..
Nasi memang masak pagi, jadi anak-anak makan nasi panas.. Paling mereka suka telur dadar dengan bawang.. Sambil tu, anak-anak makan roti bakar, Koko Krunch dan apa jugak yang mereka suka!

#6 Buka dan sahur dengan kurma
Kami buka dengan kurma, sembahyang, baru makan nasi. Selalu jugak kami cairkan coklat dan makan kurma dengan choc panas. Cairkan coklat 340w (medium) dalam 15 saat. Celup masa coklat panas-panas. Lajulah makan kurma.. Berkat!

#7 Kalau tak puasa, makan bila lapar dan kena menyorok.
Since Irfan sahaja yang tak puasa (3 tahun) dia kena makan bila dia lapar. Dia hanya boleh makan roti sahaja (roti bakar tak boleh.. sebab baunya mengiurkan)..Makan pulak sorang-sorang dalam bilik.. dan tak boleh keluar kecuali bila mulut dah kosong

Sounds evil, kan? tapi memang dia dah faham.. bila bulan puasa, hanya boleh alas perut dan tak boleh makan sedap di siang hari! Sweets and snack are out of the question! Dia pernah mintak.. tapi dia terus cakap "opps! takde takde"!

Sebenarnya tak marah pun.. tapi terangkan dengan baik kat dia.. kesian orang semua puasa.. kalau makan depan orang puasa, nanti orang jadi lapar... dia akan faham

#8 Sogokkan dengan cerita-cerita syurga, bidadari, sungai susu yang mengalir di syurga dan pahala yang Allah beri jika berpuasa..
Pernah sekali Haziq (6 tahun) tak tahan bau peanut butter adik dia makan.. jadi dia nak buka puasa.. Terpaksa sogok dengan bidadari yang memakai kain 70 lapis sedang menunggunya di syurga, tersenyum Haziq mengingatkan bidadarinya.. terus lupa tentang nak buka puasa.

#9 Jangan bagi upah duit untuk hari dia berpuasa
Anak ada yang bercerita dengan nina, kawan-kawan ramai yang dapat duit. Nina cakap, "lebih dari itu pun ibu boleh bagi, kalau ikutkan duit belanja yang dapat tu pun lebih dari seringgit sehari". Terangkan kenapa kita perlu puasa.. terangkan jika bagi duit mereka akan berpuasa kerana duit. Sebenarnya kita berpuasa sebab mahukan keredhaan Allah..

Mereka bukanlah terlalu muda untuk memahami.. sebenarnya mereka lebih senang untuk memahami kerana mereka belum pandai "argue".

#10 Tangisi pemergian Ramadhan
Kira puasa tinggal berapa hari untuk merintih tentang kehilangan Ramadhan.. Ceritakan tentang kemungkinan ini Ramadhan yang terakhir.. Ceritakan juga bagaimana roh-roh yang sudah mati merayu-rayu kepada Allah untuk dikembalikan ke dunia walaupun sekadar sesaat cuma untuk menyebut Subhanallah.. untuk menambah timbangan pahala..

Insyaallah.. kanak-kanak sebenarnya memang ada naluri untuk berpuasa.. Tugas kita hanya untuk memberi ruang kepada mereka dan galakan agar mereka boleh dan gembira berpuasa...

Tugas kita pula sebagai ibu-bapa, perlu beri ruang untuk puasa dan beri galakan. Ada jugak kawan-kawan anak mengadu.. "aku tension betul, aku nak puasa sebenarnya tapi mak aku suruh bukak, takut tak tahan". Cubalah.. tidak ada umur yang terlalu awal untuk melatih puasa. Cuma, bila latih masa umur 3-4 tahun, kalau mereka nak buka puasa.. jangan marah.. Yang penting, mereka faham konsep puasa dan kenapa kena puasa.. Good Luck! Semoga kita sama-sama mendapat keredhaanNya.. Amiin
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Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Kesian Baby Muhammad kena 'thrush'

Baru balik hospital siang tadi dan baru bangun tidur.. Baby Muhammad baru lepas menyusu dan sedang lena tidur. Semalam pukul 2 pagi dia terjaga.. dan tak tidur sampai pagi..

Agaknya perut kembung sebab dia kurang menyusu. Teruk jugak 'thrush' dia.. Penuh sampai ke pipi.. rupanya ubat yang dipakai untuk ulcer bukan untuk 'thrush', patutlah tak berkurang.

Yang ibu dia pun bijak, pergi cuci dengan kain dan air suam.. It gets worse as it makes the mouth sore.. dah baca dah dalam buku baby tapi bila orang suruh tu, pergi ikut pulak..

What to do when you get thrush?

Go to the clinic immediately.. before it gets worse.. it's actually a fungal infection.. and it can be transfered to your nipple if you don't treat it. (Ni nipple tengah sore lah ni).. The doctor will give you oral drop..

Anak yang lain tak pernah pulak kena.. rupanya kalau mak masa mengandung kena keputihan, boleh kena. Doktor tanya tadi.. ada kena keputihan ke masa mengandung.. sebenarnya, tak pulak kena..

Bila baca kat net, mak yang makan antibiotik, anak boleh kena and it is very common for mothers who have cesarean birth to be given antibiotic.

Kesian tengok baby muhammad.. ubat dia pahit kot sebab dia tengah tidur pun terus terjaga, sampai nak termuntah-muntah. Lepas tu air liur jadi pekat.. terkulat-terkulat muka dia.. menangis tak berhenti... jadi sekarang ni dia baru lepas menyusu.. menyusu pun kena certain angle.. bukan macam biasa...

Tidur ya sayang.. nanti ibu kejut bagi susu.. nanti kembung pulak...
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Saturday, September 12, 2009

Lengkap Sangat Doa ni! Bacalah Walau Sekali (Copy, save n Print!)

DOA YANG TELAH DISAMPAIKAN OLEH USTAZ HJ. MUHAMAD MUSTAFA DARI AKADEMI ISLAM KOTA BHARU KELANTAN DI MASJID ABU BAKAR ASSIDDIQ BANGSAR KUALA LUMPUR PADA 1.12.88

Bismillaa hirrahmaa nirrahim..

Alhamdulillaa hi rabbibbil 'aalamiin wassholaatu wassalaamu 'ala asyrafil ambiyaa i wal mursaliina wa 'aka aalihi qa shohbihi ajma'iin..

Ya Allah Ya Tuhan kami, ampunkanlah dosa kami dan maaflah kesilapan kami zahir dan batin.

Ya Allah, ampunilah dosa kedua ibu bapa kami, dosa keluarga kami, dosa masyarakat kami dan dosa keseluruh umat Islam yang telah mati yang yang masih hidup.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, kami pohonkan apa yang telah dipohonkan oleh Rasulullah SAW dan kami meminta pertolongan dari apa yang pernah diminta pertolongan oleh Rasulullah SAW.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, kami pohonkan syurga tanpa hisab dan berilah kekuatan, taufik dan hidayah kepada kami supaya kami dapat melakukan sebab-sebab yang membawa kami ke arahnya, selamatkan kami Ya Allah dari sebab- sebab yang membawa kami ke neraka.

La Hau la wa laa quwwata illaa billaa hil 'aliyyul 'azdim

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, Engkau sahajalah yang mengetahui kelemahan diri kami zahir dan batin, berilah kekuatan, taufik dan hidayah kepada kami supaya kami dapat memperbaiki diri kami, tambahkanlah ya Allah kepada kami ilmu, iman dan amal; hidupkanlah kami dalam Islam dan matikanlah kami dalam Islam.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, kami pohonkan kepada Engkau Iman yang sempurna, Ilmu yang memberi manfaat, Rezeki yang halal, Anak yang soleh, Rumahtangga yang bahagia, Usia yang berkat, Doa yang mustajab, Hajat yang tertunai, Kesihatan yang berterusan, Hutang yang terbayar, keselamatan di dunia ini dan di akhirat nanti.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, Engkau sahajalah yang mengetahui segala yang berlaku di hati kami, hidupkan hati in dan sampaikanlah hati ini kepada Engkau, sembuhkanlah segala penyakit yang berada di hati kami, selamatkanlah hati kami dari sufat-sifat yang keji dan jauhi kami dari perkara-perkara yang boleh mematikan hati kami.

La Hau la wa laa quwwata illaa billaa hil 'aliyyul 'azdim

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, jadikanlah hati kami hati yang sentiasa menyedari akan hakikat Ketuhanan dan Kerajaan Engkau dan masa depan kami di akhirat nanti.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, jadikanlah kami ini hambaMu yang mengabdi diri kepada Engkau dengan sebaik-baiknya; berilah kekuatan, taufik dan hidayah kepada kami, supaya dapat kami lakukan segala yang diperintah oleh Engkau dan meninggalkan segala apa yang dilarang oleh Engkau.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, jadikanlah hati kami ini hati yang sentiasa menyedari masa depan kami di akhirat nanti dan jadikanlah kami hamba Mu yang sentiasa bersedia untuk menghadapi masa depan kami selepas mati.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, hidupkanlah kami dalam Iman dan matikanlah kami dalam Iman, selamatkanlah Iman kami dari segala gangguan syaitan semasa kami menghembus nafas yang terakhir.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, selamatkanlah kami semasa berada di dalam kubur, jadilkanlah kubur kami salah satu taman dari taman syurga, selamatkanlah kami dari segala angkara azab kubur dan jangan Engkau jadikan kubur kami itu salah satu lubang dari lubang-lubang neraka.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, selamatkanlah hati kami semasa dalam perjalanan menuju Mahsyar dan masukkan kai ke dalam tujuh golongan orang yang mendapat bayangan naugan Arasy Engkau.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, ampunkanlah dosa kami dan maafkan kesilapan kami zahir dan batin semasa kami dijalankan hisab, hisabkanlah kami ya Allah dengan hisab yang sedikit, berilah peluang kepada kami untuk mendapat syafaat nabi kami Nabi Muhammad SAW.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, jadikanlah hamba Mu ini hamba yang berjaya dalam hidup ini dan berjaya menerima suratan amal dengan tangan kanan.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, berilah kesempatan kepada kami meminum kolam Nabi kami Al Kauthar; selamatkanlah kami semasa menyeberangi titian Siratulmustaqim.

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, masukkanlah kami ke dalam syurga Engkau bersama-sama dengan orang yang memasuki ke dalamnya.

La Hau la wa laa quwwata illaa billaa hil 'aliyyul 'azdim

Ya Allah ya Tuhan kami, perkenankanlah permohonan kami ini, mustajabkanlah doa kami ini dengan berkat nabi kami Nabi Muhammad SAW dan dengan berkat amalan kami yang paling ikhlas.

Robbanaa aaatina fiddun ya hasanah wa fil aakhiroti hasanah waqinaa 'azaabannar.

Subhaana robbika robbil 'izzati 'amma ya shifoon wa salaamu 'ala'

DIPETIK DR "AMALAN SEPANJANG HAYAT'
walhamdulillaa hi robbil 'alamiin..

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Friday, September 11, 2009

Lailatul Qadar

Sambil tersengguk-sengguk sebab mengantuk lepas sahur, terdengar ustaz bercerita tentang keistimewaan Lailatul Qadar. Yang penting ialah kita berharap dan bangun malam, berdoa agar diampunkan dosa kita. Kata ustaz lagi, Imam Ghazali ada menyebut, jika puasa bermula pada hari sabtu, Lailatul Qadar akan jatuh pada malam 23. Malam ni lah tu.. Kalaulah dapat, malam yang lebih baik dari 1000 bulan, 83 tahun tu.... Kita pun belum tentu hidup selama itu.. apatah lagi nak beribadah terus menerus selama 83 tahun.

Malu jugak bila Ustaz Zamri guna metafor.. Katakan ada satu sahaja supermarket yang buka, supermarket tu dihiasi dengan lampu yang terang-menderang, jalan nak ke supermarket tu pun diterangi dengan lampu seterang-terangnya, sale sampai berapa percent, kedai lain tutup pulak tu.. tapi kita tidak terpanggil untuk pergi.. kan rugi..

Macam tu jugak dengan ramadhan.. Allah permudahkan jalan ke syurga, diberi pahala berganda-ganda, dan diberi satu malam yang sungguh istimewa tapi kalau kita tidak terpanggil untuk beramal, maknanya kata ustaz lagi, kita tidak berminat untuk ke syurga.

Ouch.. sambil tersenyum je ustaz tu bercerita tapi terasa..

Kata ustaz lagi, Lailatul Qadar bermula selepas maghrib sehingga ke subuh hari berikutnya. Apabila berlakunya Lailatul Qadar, malam akan jadi tenang, matahari pada hari berikutnya bewarna pudar sahaja. Siapa yang mendapat Lailatul Qadar yang ternampak perubahan pada dirinya. Ada yang bertanya apa yang patut dilakukan apabila mendapat Lailatul Qadar.. Rasulullah pernah mengajar Saidatina A'isyah doa ini..


Allahumma innaka 'affuwwun tuhibbul 'afwa fa'fu 'anni

Ya Allah, sesungguhnya Engkau Maha Pemaaf dan suka memaafkan, maka maafkanlah aku.



Kalau tak tahu bahasa arabnya, minta saja ampun dengan Allah.. dengan harapan, Allah mengampunkan kesemua dosa kita.



Antara amalan yang boleh dilakukan apabila qiamullail adalah:-



1. Solat Sunat Taubat 2,4,6 rakaat. (surah bebas)

Doa yang dianjurkan selepas solat sunat taubat.

Aku memohon keampunan kepada Allah yang Maha Agung. Aku mengaku bahawa tiada Tuhan melainkan Allah, Tuhan yang Hidup, yang sentiasa mengawasi. Aku memohon taubat kepadaNya sebagaimana taubatnya seorang hamba yang banya melakukan dosa, yang tiada daya dan upaya bagi dirinya untuk berbuat mudharat atau manfaat untuk mati atau hidup, mahupun bangkit semula setelah mati.



2. Solat Sunat Hajat (2/4/6..12 rakaat)

Rakaat Pertama - Al-Fatihah + Ayat kursi 7 x / Al-Kafiruun 7 x

Rakaat Kedua - Al-Fatihah + Al-Ikhlas 11 x

Doa Selepas Solat Sunat Hajat

Tiada Tuhan melainkan Alah, yang Maha Pemurah lagi Maha Penyayang. Maha Suci Allah, Tuhan yang menjaga Arasy yang Maha Agung. Segala puji bagi Allah, Tuhan alam semesta. KepadaMulah aku memohon sesuatu yang mewajibkan rahmatMu dan sesuatu yang mendatangkan keampunanMu dan memperolehi keuntungan pada setiap dosa. Janganlah Engkau biarkan dosa pada diriku, melainkan Engkau ampuni dan tidak ada sesuatu kepentingan melainkan Engkau tunjukkan jalan keluarm dan tidak pula sesuatu hajat yang mendapat kerelaanMu, melainkan Engkau perkenankan. Wahai Tuhan yang Maha Pengasih lagi Maha Penyayang. Semoga Allah memerkenankan doa ini.

Mohonlah apa yang dihajati sambil bersujud dan perbanyakkan bacaan doa Nabi Yunus,

Laa ila ha illaa anta subhaa naka inni kuntumminadzolimiin..

Tiada Tuhan melainkan Engkau ya Allah! Maha Suci Engkau, sesungguhnya aku ini dari golongan orang yang aniaya.

3. Solat Sunat Tahajjud - (2 rakaat)

Rakaat pertama - al-Fatihah + Ayat kursi 7 x

Rakaat kedua - al-Fathiah + Surah al-Ikhlas 11 x

Sujud terakhir -

  • Ya haiyu ya qayyum birahmatikas ta ghiithu laa ila ha illa anta 40 x
  • Allahumma sholli 'ala saiyidina muhammad wa 'alaa aalihi wa shohbihi wasallim 10 x
  • Ya ka fii Ya ghanii Ya fattaa hu Ya rozaq 33 x atau 313 x


Sekiranya mahu menambah



  • Laa ilaaha illallah 100 x


Doa Solat Sunat Tahajjud



Ya Allah! BagiMu segala kepujian. Engkaulah Tuhan yang menegakkan langit dan bumi, alam semesta serta segala isinya. BagimMu segala kepujian, bagiMu segala kekuasaan di langit dan di bumi, alam semesta dan segala isinya. BagiMu segala kepujian, Tuhan cahaya langit dan bumi. BagiMu segala kepujian, Engkau Tuhan yang benar dan janjiMu adalah benar. Syruga adalah benar dan neraka adalah benar dan para nabi itu adalah benar. Nabi Muhammad SAW adalah benar dan kiamat itu adalah benar. Ya Allah! KepadaMu aku berserah dan kepadaMu aku berhukum. Ampunilah aku atas kesalahan yang telah aku lakukan dan kesalahan yang sebelumnya. Sama ada kesalahan itu, kesalahan yang terang mahupun yang tersembunyi. Sesungguhnya Engkaulah yang terdahulu dan Engkaulah yang terakhir. Tiada Tuhan melainkan Engkau. Tiada daya dan kekuatan melainkan dengan Allah.

Akhir sekali banyakkan beristighfar.

Ada yang bertanya, bagaimana pula wanita yang haidh dan nifas. Ustaz kata lagi cukuplah sekadar berzikir dan beristighfar.. Allah itu kan Maha Adil!

Semoga kita mendapat Lailatul Qadar... Semoga kita diberi kekuatan dan semangat untuk melakukan ibadah.. Paling-paling pun.. lakukanlah solat tarawikh, solat sunat yang memang boleh dilakukan selepas tarawih (kecuali tahajjud - kena tidur dulu!). Dan yang paling mudah sekali, bangun sahur, masak nasi, dan sementara menunggu nasi masak, sembahyanglah sunat taubat memohon keampunan Allah.

Solat-solat dipetik dari:
Amalan Sepanjang Hayat - Ustaz Ismail Kamus
Bimbingan Penghayatan & Kesempurnaan Solat - Ustaz Johari Yaman, Penerbitan Nadi Minda.













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English-english Online Dictionary with Pronunciation

Assalamualaikum..

I always forget to tell my friends about this online dictionary.. It's really helpful when updating my blog as you can just make sure whether you are using the right word. The good thing is you can listen to the pronunciation as well.. Try it!

http://www.merriam-webster.com/
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Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Kunjungan Orang Istimewa


Hari ni mendapat kunjungan rakan-rakan yang begitu istimewa sekali.. Sebenarnya inilah ahli-ahli 'GBS-'geng bas sekolah' yang begitu setia menceriakan pagi-pagi selepas menghantar anak ke sekolah. Alhamdulillah.. sampai juga rakan-rakan meraikan orang baru. Terasa hilang rindu setelah cuti sekian lama.

Bukan setakat datang kosong, sambil bersembang, ada artikel yang dibawa, beserta Hiraq Karmila dan Hiraq Gamat yang dipesan dari tauke Hiraq. (Kalau nak order, boleh contact Shiela ya!)

"Hiraq Karmila dan Hiraq Gamat - khusus untuk wanita"

Of course I just love the company, sharing tips on breastfeeding, confinement and even recipes.. Nothing is more than a bunch of good friends.. Tak terbayang jika kita di dunia ini keseorangan.
"Inspiring article as well as a book for company.. ada satu lagi buku sebenarnya! Kisah cinta Khadijah dan Nabi Muhammad"

Ini hanya sebahagian daripada ahli-ahli GBS. All used to be working mothers who had to sacrifice in the name of love. Ada juga ahli yang masih lagi bekerja. I used to get shocked when I first quit my job but then being with the rest of these supermoms makes me feel alive and look forward to being a good mom.

Memang tak dinafikan.. ada juga mata yang melirik.. melihatkan kami bergumbira hampir setiap pagi sehingga jam 9 pagi. Nampak macam bual kosong tapi sebenarnya topik-topik pagi ni merangkumi berbagai-bagai topik; parenting, menu dan resipi masak, housekeeping, kuliah agama, politik dan bermacam-macam lagi.

The most important thing is the fact that we support each other in whatever field we are doing.. building up confidence and creating as much fun as we can.. You'll be surprise how we learn from each other as most of us come from different background and interest..

yang sorang penguasa restoran aka shopper aka pembayar tol jalan, sorang penguasa berdarah kelantan yang memang pandai melariskan barang jualannya!, sorang isteri yang cukup anggun yang sentiasa berada di belakang suaminya walau di mana sahaja suaminya berada, seorang lagi penulis yang sentiasa bersemangat dalam apa jua yang diminatinya.. seorang part time penjaga itik yang bekerja sepenuh masa.. dan kalau nak ditulis semua.. maka berderet-deretla berbagai-bagai pekerjaan di sini.

Till we meet again, I thank Allah for granting me the happiness in my life.. friends!
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Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Tegur Biarlah dari Hati bukan kerana Hati

Pelik je bunyi tajuk ni kan? Memang pelik.. Kadang-kadang kita ni banyak menegur orang silap itu ini. Selalunya bila kita menegur.. kita akan ambil risiko. Banyak yang akan kecil hati, ada yang sakit hati, jarang sekali orang berterima kasih pada kita walaupun pada hakikatnya bukan senang kita nak menegur orang.

Sebenarnya cara yang terbaik adalah menegur dari hati.. Bila nak menegur orang, kena tengok apa niat kita menegur tu. Adakah kerana kita dah tak tahan tengok dan sakit hati, atau pun kira rasa kalau kita tegur, orang itu akan jadi lebih baik, atau pun kita kasihan melihat orang yang kita nak tegur tu buat kesilapan atau pun kita menegur semata-mata kerana Allah.

Bukan senang nak tegur orang. Bak kata orang dulu-dulu, berhati-hati menarik rambut dari tepung, rambut tak putus, tepung tak berserak. Kalau nak tegur, biarlah mesejnya sampai, hati tak sakit, tak timbul pulak masaalah lain.

Cara yang akan menentukan segalanya. Sendiri pernah ditegur oleh anak murid saya bila saya menyebut perkataan dengan salah. Tapi saya sendiri tak perasan yang sebenarnya saya ditegur oleh anak murid sendiri! Saya tabik dia! Saya puji dia depan kelas dan saya belajar dari dia.

Kadang-kala, ada yang menegur sebab tak puas hati. Jadi untuk melegakan sakit hati, bertubi-tubi dia meluahkan perasaan sambil menegur. Akhirnya orang yang ditegur kecil hati, mesej tak kesampaian, kita sendiri pun tak tau apa yang dicakap sebab dek syok sendiri.

Ada pula yang main perli.. Lalu je orang yang nak ditegur tu, sindir sana, sindir sini. Orang yang disindir tak faham, orang yang menyindir tambah sakit hati. Sebenarnya, cara perli ni dah lapuk la. Kalau nak tegur orang, tak payahlah main sindir-sindir. Buat tambah dosa saja.

Yang paling penting, kalau menegur, biarlah kerana Allah, semata-mata kerana Allah. Bila kita menegur, biarlah dengan berhikmah. Saya teringat rakan baik saya yang menegur dalam mesyuarat guru apabila guru-guru lain tidak puas hati dengan sikap pengawas. Dia bangun dan terus berkata dengan suara yang begitu lemah-lembut, "Kita ni kalau nak tegur, biarlah dengan cara yang berhikmah, cikgu semua kena ingat pengawas ni kita tak bayar apa-apa pun, mereka ni tolong je guru-guru". Guru-guru yang 'komplen' kebanyakannya tertunduk malu.

Masa menegur juga penting.. Janganlah ambil peluang nak menegur 'ikut dan' je. Tunggulah masa yang sesuai. Kadang-kala nak menegur tu kena tangguh lama baru boleh tegur. Janganlah menegur bila kita tengah marah. Diam dulu. Bila kedua-duanya dalam mood yang baik, barulah ambil peluang menegur.

Jangan pula menegur bila orang tengah bersuka-ria. Takut-takut anti-klimax pulak. Apa-apa cerita pun, biarlah kita betulkan niat.. Sebelum kita menegur.. tengoklah dulu diri sendiri. Jangan tuding satu jari kat orang, 4 jari menuding kat diri sendiri. Insyaallah, kalau menegur ikhlas kerana Allah, semuanya akan berjalan lancar. Kalau tak boleh tegur dengan cara yang betul, biarlah kita tegur sahaja di dalam hati. Itulah selemah-lemah iman. Jangan buat 'dek' sudahlah.

Yang ditegur pula, janganlah ambil hati. Mungkin orang yang menegur tu memang ikhlas.. Ambil masa untuk ubat hati bila ditegur tapi jangan buang apa yang ditegur. Mungkin ada benarnya. Cuma kita yang susah nak terima bila ditegur.

Sebelum orang terkecil hati dengan entry saya kali ni, biarlah saya menyusun jari memohon kemaafan.. Yang baik tu dari Allah, yang tidak.. dari diri saya sendiri.. Astaghfirullah..
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Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Allah Knows Best!

I met a friend after kindy school today. Tomorrow would be the beginning of my 37th week of pregnancy which means I can be in labour anytime now! All this while.. I was hoping that I will not give birth during the fasting month.. My due would be on the 7th day of Raya. It would be really challenging to qadha' the ones that I missed.

Somehow, this friend of mine changed the whole thing.. All of a sudden, I really want to give birth during ramadhan.. Her expression melted when I told her I might give birth during ramadhan.. I didn't get it at that time.. but then..

She did mention about the baraqah of ramadhan and if I were to give birth during ramadhan.. with all the rahmah and blessing .. Alhamdulillah..

I was startled.. I told her that I have never seen it that way.. Alhamdulillah.. Allah sent me a message through a 5-minute conversation with a new friend..

I would rather qadha all the fast that I miss to get the baraqah.. but then, I will definitely be sad because I will miss the tarawih and the tadarus with my kids...

Allah knows best! and I leave everything in His Hands..
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My Mu'allim - Sami Yusuf

We once had a Teacher
The Teacher of teachers,
He changed the world for the better
And made us better creatures,
Oh Allah we’ve shamed ourselves
We’ve strayed from Al-Mu'allim,
Surely we’ve wronged ourselves
What will we say in front him?
Oh Mu'allim...

Chorus
He was Muhammad salla Allahu 'alayhi wa sallam,
Muhammad, mercy upon Mankind,
He was Muhammad salla Allahu 'alayhi wa sallam,
Muhammad, mercy upon Mankind,
Teacher of all Mankind.
Abal Qasim [one of the names of the Prophet]
Ya Habibi ya Muhammad
(My beloved O Muhammad)
Ya Shafi'i ya Muhammad
(My intercessor O Muhammad)
Khayru khalqillahi Muhammad
(The best of Allah’s creation is Muhammad)
Ya Mustafa ya Imamal Mursalina
(O Chosen One, O Imam of the Messengers)
Ya Mustafa ya Shafi'al 'Alamina
(O Chosen One, O intercessor of the worlds)

He prayed while others slept
While others ate he’d fast,
While they would laugh he wept
Until he breathed his last,
His only wish was for us to be
Among the ones who prosper,
Ya Mu'allim peace be upon you,
Truly you are our Teacher,
Oh Mu'allim..

Chorus
Ya Habibi ya Muhammad
(My beloved O Muhammad)
Ya Shafi'i ya Muhammad
(My intercessor O Muhammad)
Ya Rasuli ya Muhammad
(O My Messenger O Muhammad)
Ya Bashiri ya Muhammad
(O bearer of good news O Muhammad)
Ya Nadhiri ya Muhammad
(O warner O Muhammad)
'Ishqu Qalbi ya Muhammad
(The love of my heart O Muhammad)
Nuru 'Ayni ya Muhammad
(Light of my eye O Muhammad)
He taught us to be just and kind
And to feed the poor and hungry,
Help the wayfarer and the orphan child
And to not be cruel and miserly,
His speech was soft and gentle,
Like a mother stroking her child,
His mercy and compassion,
Were most radiant when he smiled


Chorus
Abal Qasim [one of the names of the Prophet]
Ya Habibi ya Muhammad
(My beloved O Muhammad)
Ya Shafi'i ya Muhammad
(My intercessor O Muhammad)
Khayru khalqillahi Muhammad
(The best of Allah’s creation is Muhammad)
Ya Mustafa Ya Imamal Mursalina
(O Chosen One O Imam of the Messengers)
Ya Mustafa ya Shafi'al 'Alamina
(O Chosen One O intercessor of the worlds)

source:http://www.lyricstime.com
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Monday, August 24, 2009

Kindy Mini Sketch

I started practising with the kindy kids "Heal the World", alhamdulillah, they really like the song.. some even wanted to bring back home the lyric so that they can practice at home..

I learnt the trick of teaching them english song from their teacher last year during convocation..

1. read aloud.. just to make sure they are familiar with the words
2. Let them listen to the song.. just to get them familiar with the melody
3. Practice 1 stanza at a time.. going superslow.. then, use the music to sing along..
4. continue without music with the second stanza, repeat from stanza 1, then use the music...
5. continue with the rest of the stanza.. not forgetting to move back and forth..
6. be patient!

Honestly, I don't really think I can make it to practice the sketch itself.. I'll be in my confinement.. See what happens!

Singing New Song Tips:-

#1 make sure the lyrics are printed big enough (extra large if they are not good at reading yet)
#2 you can drill the difficult words on the board before even starting to sing
#3 I use block art to write my lyric, stanza by stanza.. this way, I can always keep the lyric in case I need to use later. It also saves space compared to the manila card or mahjong paper.
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Saturday, August 22, 2009

Second Day of Fasting! Already?

Alhamdulillah..can't believe I can make it this Ramadhan. Allah has granted time to celebrate fasting month.. I can never be more grateful. The kids are thrilled!

Honestly.. though I'm really eagerly waiting for ramadhan, I'm certainly anxious at the same time.. distracted with the fact that along with ramadhan comes my due for my labour.

This year, with H1N1 spreading like wildfire and most of my family are at high-risk.. me being pregnant, and children, fasting month and school holiday means quarantining ourselves at home.

Unlike 4 years back.. we were to spend on food at the bazaar in celebration of our kids who just learn fasting.. Then we realized that spending luxuriously on food does not really meet the purpose of fasting itself.

Now, I don't normally cook extra dishes for them.. not that I don't consider the fact that they are learning to fast but then, teaching them not to overeat as soon as they break fast is more important. Our dishes are simple and a constant reminder of those who remain hungry even after they break fast or those who always get hungry even during those time of non fasting month. Of course, there will be days that I'll cook a feast! But definitely not throughout the fasting month!

I remembered somebody did protested when my 4-year-old Haziq started fasting, insisting that the boy is not prepared to fast. But the truth is.. we never really forced him to fast.. He was really eager to follow the brother and sister fasting. The reward was of course not in cash.. but stories of the beauty of 'syurga' and the everflowing rivers there. He is thrilled!

Irfan, my youngest.. aged 3 is now learning to fast.. Of course he does not really fast.. but like his brothers and sister, we try to wake him up for 'sahur', and he only eats whenever he is hungry.. hidden from the rest of the family to respect the fasting month.. And we are quite flexible with his sahur.. The first day, he did not wake up for sahur, so he had his sahur as soon as he woke up..

It's never too early to start.. Starting does not really mean they have to do it.. but a mere exposure of the concept.. Forcing is not in the dictionary.. but trust me.. kids are more than ready to embrace Islam.. sometimes, I think, it is us who is just not ready.. :P
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Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Raya.. No problem.. Isteri Kena Ikut Cakap Suami

Alhamdulillah, bulan puasa menjelma lagi.. Masa ni lah nak cover pahala-pahala yang tak buat sepanjang tahun..

Indahnya ramadhan, semua orang berebut-rebut nak bersedekah, nak sembahyang sunat, nak baca quran..

Yang paling syoknya.. selalunya kita salahkan syaitan yang menggoda.. tapi bila bulan puasa barulah kita perasan, sebenarnya nafsu kita yang perlu dijinakkan. Tengok itu ini, semua terliur..

Sambil-sambil bersembang petang-petang, merah telinga dibuatnya.. Alhamdulillah tahun ni Allah bagi bonus sebab kalau ikut turn sebenarnya di rumah mertua tapi disebabkan due bersalin masa raya, tak berani nak travel mana-mana. Jadi disini sajalah, jadilah beraya 2 tahun berturut-turut di rumah mak sendiri. Tapi itu pun belum tentu.. terdengar desas-desus ada orang tu teringin nak beraya kat rumah sendiri. Abah pun dah sibuk tanya.. raya kat mana. Takut-takut bersalin betul-betul masa raya.. kesian jugak kat anak-anak, mesti hidangan tak seberapa.

Rupa-rupanya ada kawan yang teringat kawannya yang sentiasa merancang bersalin di waktu raya.. Bila ditanya kenapa, barulah faham.. rupanya kalau dia bersalin sahajalah ada 'can' raya pertama di rumah maknya.. Kalau tak memang kena beraya di rumah mertua..

Saya sebenarnya sakit jugak hati bila mendengar cerita tu. Teringat saya masa first beraya di rumah mertua... Memanglah dah kira keluarga sendiri.. tapi terus terang.. memang masa mula-mula kahwin, memang sedih. Teringat kat keluarga sendiri, lauk-lauk yang dah biasa kita makan dari kecil. Sedih bila mengenangkan pagi-pagi tatkala sibuk bersiap mandi sunat dan pergi ke masjid untuk sembahyang raya bersama keluarga.

Katanya kawan saya tadi.. suaminya kata.. isteri kena ikut cakap suami, rayalah kat rumah suami.. dia ada tanggungjawab pada ibu bapa dia.. Wah! Sungguh kuat pegangan islamnya.. taat pada ibu bapa.. isteri pulak kenalah faham.. kan suami kena taat pada ibu-bapa?

Kalaulah semua suami macam ini.. taat pada agama.. memang aman dunia ni.. Taklah suami pakai duit gaji isteri, mesti suami carikan pembantu untuk buat-buat kerja rumah.. kerana tugas isteri sebenarnya melayan suami. Mesti rumah dan semua keperluan dibayar penuh oleh suami..

Kalau ikut macam rasulullah pulak, mesti sang suami jahit baju sendiri, suapkan isteri makan, tolong kerja rumah dan beromantik dengan isteri. Cakap dengan isteri pun lemah lembut sahaja. Takkan pernah memerintah isteri buat itu ini. Rasulullah siap bawa orang main pedang lagi di depan rumahnya untuk menghiburkan Saidatina A'isyah, semasa baginda bermain lumba lari dengan A'isyah pun, dia bagi A'isyah menang untuk menghiburkan hati A'syah..

Islam ni memang cantik sebenarnya.. kalau isteri kena taat pada ibu bapa sama macam suami.. pakat-pakat semualah raya kat rumah masing-masing. Tapi Allah maha Mengetahui, isteri kena taat suami.. selesailah masaalah..

Apa yang kebanyakan para suami lupa ialah mereka pun ada anak perempuan. Satu hari nanti "history repeats itself"! Mesti sedih kalau anak mereka tiap-tiap tahun di rumah suami. Tapi pada masa tu.. apa nak jawab.. mereka lebih faham.. ataupun mereka tidak ada pilihan.. telan sajalah.. Apa jadi ya? kalau mereka ada 6 anak dan kesemuanya perempuan?

Teringat saya seorang isteri mengeluh pada ustaz.. "tak adillah macam ni ustaz.." Ustaz kata "Siapa kata adil? Kat dunia ni memanglah nampak macam tak adil.. tapi pahala yang kita tak nampak tu memang lebih dari adil." Jadi, bagi para isteri.. katanya memang senang nak masuk syurga.. tutup aurat dan taat pada suami.. teori mudah kan? Praktikalnya.. kenalah kita sama-sama timba ilmu...
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Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Bored to Death that I Started Cleaning up!

It has been weeks since I last updated my blog.. Been trying to clean up the clutter that I myself collected. Been trying to complete the housechores that I procrastinated. I actually rewarded myself with RM1 for each of the task that I finished. Teruk betul! I managed to get RM18 that day.. I managed to iron the kids' uniform, azly's office attire, arranging my book shelves, clearing almost every eyesore in the hall.. Honestly, I deserved more than RM18.. It's not the money actually.. It's the fact that I'm trying to motivate myself to do the chores. Not a big fan of house cleaning.. and everyone knows that..

I promised myself I'll just spend it myself to treat myself.. be it chocolate, a cone of really expensive ice cream or even a sneak to Nando's or Johnny's..

Tapi tak sampai hati.. Eventually, everyone got an ice-cream.

Among my favourite channel is 733 - Astro.. specifically "Perfect Housewives", "Help, I'm a Horder" as well as "Scrub". It's really amazing that some people do enjoy cleaning.. I tried watching "Cleanaholics" but they are mostly ridiculously clean that I get so upset with my part of cleaning.

I do like cleaning at times.. but not all the time that I can't even make a mess. My kids, following me.. are not that tidy but then I'd rather the way I am that being a perfectionist. I tried before.. trying to be as tidy as I could but I have to admit, it gets me and the people around me really stressed. I really wonder, as I go to my friends' house.. and couldn't help myself asking them.. how did they ever managed to keep their houses clean and tidy.. The answer is always the same.. "Kemas ke ni?" [sigh]..
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Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Susahnya Kalau ada Buruk Sangka, Batu Api dan Lalang!

Assalamualaikum..

Entah kenapa rasa hati memang tak sedap.. Kalau ikut orang melayu.. kalau tersedak tu maknanya orang tengah syok mengata kita.. Tiba-tiba tersedak masa tengah makan.. sebenarnya perut tengah lapar.. makan pun gelojoh, tu yang tersedak-sedak tu..

Tapi disebabkan kita tidak mengamalkan amalan islam yang sebenar, mulalah timbul sifat-sifat mazmumah di dalam hati. Bukan senang sebenarnya nak bersihkan hati. Nisfu syaaban pun dah dekat, buku amalan dah nak ditukar baru tapi masih belum bertaubat atas dosa tidak menjaga hati.

Salah satu penyakit hati ni tentulah buruk sangka.. Sebenarnya kalau kita berbaik sangka pada orang, hidup kita akan lebih tenang. Bila bercerita ni bukanlah mengata orang, sebenarnya 'reflect' diri sendiri.. dosa sendiri.. dengan harapan, bila terlupa, bila baca blog ni, saya muhasabah diri sendiri. Maklumlah.. kita bukan malaikat, iman sentiasa bertokok dan berkurangan.

Bila dah buruk sangka.. mulalah jadi sakit hati, syaitan pun membisikkan ayat-ayat cinta biar kita iri hati dan dengki. Bila syaitan tengah syok.. ada pulak syaitan kepala hitam yang suka mengapi-api. Mulalah dia memuji-muji orang yang kita sakit hati tu. Sebenarnya tiada kena mengena pun tapi bila hati kita pula macam lalang.. ditambah dengan syaitan dan kuncu-kuncunya.. dan askar tak diiktiraf berkepala hitam yang bermain dengan api.. ditambah pula rempah titik-titik hitam di hati.. maka kita pun menjadi lalang.. Terikutlah kita dengan hasutan syaitan dan sifat-sifat mazmumah yang menjadi makanan hati kita..

Hati yang sakit akan menjadi kotor, keras dan berkerak macam kerak karat di besi. Memang susah untuk dibersihkan kalau dah terlalu dibiarkan.. Sepatutnya zikir menjadi penawar hati.. ditambah pula dengan istighfar dari hati yang rendah menginsafi kesilapan diri sendiri. Apatah pula bila kita mengalirkan air mata apabila teringat dosa-dosa kita terutama sekali pada manusia. Bila kita berdoa pada Allah, alangkah mudahnya kerana Allah itu maha penyayang. Allah sentiasa akan mengampunkan dosa kita tapi apabila kita berdosa dengan manusia, manusia sukar untuk memaafkan, apatah lagi jika kita tak pernah pun mohon maaf pada mereka.

Saya juga manusia biasa.. yang punya penyakit hati.. mungkin dengar macam saya menasihati orang.. sebenarnya saya lebih kepada mengingati diri sendiri. Takut-takut penyakit hati ini melarat.. Apatah lagi, apabila kita tidak puas hati, mulalah muncung mulut ni melepaskan perasaan.. tidak sedar sebenarnya kita mengumpat dan memakan daging mayat saudara kita sendiri. Terdengar ustaz berkata.. mengumpat dah jadi satu 'trend' sampai orang tidak kisah mengumpat dengan alasan "Ini kisah benar, bukan kita buat cerita". Tapi sebenarnya mengumpat tu dilarang keras..

Teringat pula Ustaz Fauzi tersengih-sengih berkata di Al-Kuliyyah.. "syoknya bercerita pasal orang, cuba kalau orang buat kat kita..". Juga pernah terbaca.. sedang elok sekumpulan lelaki mengumpat, rasulullah menyuruh mereka berkumur. Dengan izin Allah, apabila mereka berkumur, terkeluar sisa-sisa daging dari mulut mereka walaupun mereka tidak makan daging sebelum itu.. Takutnya.. kalau itu benar-benar terjadi. Yang paling sedih, memang susah untuk kita berhenti mengumpat. Saya juga memang ada mengumpat.. Lepas dah reda marah.. barulah terfikir.. macam mana nak minta maaf.. Itu yang tak sabar-sabar menunggu raya.. boleh minta maaf zahir dan batin..

Tapi kadang-kadang bila saya bertekad untuk tidak mengumpat.. ada sahaja isu yang timbul. Saya tidak mengumpat kalau tidak ada kena mengena dengan saya, tapi bila terkena kat batang hidung sendiri.. memang susah saya nak elak. Kononnya, hati reda bila sudah melepaskan perasaan..

Ya Allah.. bersihkanlah hatiku ya Allah. Jadikanlah aku antara orang-orang yang sabar dengan ujianmu. Jika hatiku terlalu kotor kerana dosa ya Allah, maka kau gantilah hatiku dengan hati yang baru ya Allah. Kau buangkanlah sifat-sifat mazmumah di hati ini ya Allah. Kau tanamkanlah sifat sabar dan redha dalam menghadapi ujianmu.

Janganlah kau palingkan rahmatMu Ya Allah atas kelemahanku menjaga hati ya Allah. Amin amin ya Rabbal Alamin..
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Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Dilemma di antara 2 Kedai

Assalamualaikum.

Been a while since I last wrote.. Been organizing all my teaching materials that I've been prograstinating for the past 2 years. Now that I've started teaching form 3 part time, I really need to get organized.

I haven't been cooking properly since last week. Ada dilemma sebenarnya nak memilih antara 2 kedai. Sebenarnya memang dah biasa pergi kedai Acheh. Orangnya jujur. Tak pernah menipu dari segi harga. Kalau harga barang naik sikit memang dia bagitau sekian sekian.. Tapi masaalahnya.. bos sahaja yang bagi servis yang bagus. Kalau kita minta potong ayam, buang kulit dulu, potong 16 dan sebagainya.. memang dia akan berhenti buat apa yang dia buat dan terus buat dengan muka yang manis.

Kadang-kala memang agak cerewet sikit. Minta tolong dia buang kaki, isi perut dengan kepala je. Kadang-kadang potong tom yam (extra small). Bukan apa, bila balik rumah boleh terus masak..

Masaalahnya.. co-worker dia tu la.. Bila kita bayar, kita pulak kena tunggu dia habis tengok tv lah.. Yang paling sakit hati, kalau terkena dia baru bangun tidur, muka mencuka 14 depa. Kita nak minta pun serba salah. Yang lagi sorang pulak, sebab kita ni "regular customer", bila orang lain datang lambat, dia bagi orang lain dulu.. dengan alasan, kita mungkin boleh faham. Mula-mula tu bolehlah tahan, lama-lama kita pun fed up juga.

Dipendekkan cerita, masa tengah-tengah bengang tu, bukaklah satu kedai baru. Nak boikot kedai Acheh lah ni. Pergi ke kedai lagi satu. Sebenarnya dah lama berhenti pergi ke supermarket atau hypermarket sejak boikot Israel hari tu.. Beli barang sekadar yang perlu sahaja, tidak stok barang seperti selalu. Kononnya nak tolong orang Islam.

Layanannya first class, ikan daging semua segar-segar. Ambil terus dari pasar borong Puchong. Banyak lauk-lauk untuk masakan kampung, nangka, pucuk ubi, ulam-ulaman, mangga untuk buat kerabu. Pendek kata sesuai dengan selera orang Malaysia. Bila mula-mula beli di kedai, ada tetamu, borong sakanlah sampai RM30.00-RM40.00 sekali beli. Lama-kelamaan, beli pun makin berkurangan sebab beli barang harian. Sekarang ni asyik-asyik tanya, "beras ada lagi kak, minyak? Tak nak beli pisang ke?" Saya bergurau "Semua benda nak suruh kak beli ya?" tapi sebenarnya malas nak layan.

Saya serba salah. Nak pergi kedai Acheh, servis macam hapa, nak pergi sini, dah terlebih ramah sampai semua nak disuruh beli.

Minggu lepas, saya nekad buat keputusan setelah insiden ini terjadi. Teringin nak buat sup, saya minta 1/2 kilo tulang, dia pun bungkus. Bila dah siap beli barang-barang lain, saya pun tidak banyak cerita, bayar dan pulang. Setibanya di rumah, baru saya perasan tulang macam banyak, saya timbang. Rupanya 940gm dah dekat sekilo, bila saya cium bau, sudah tak 'fresh' macam biasa. Jadi ini kes nak habiskan barang lah ni. Saya terkilan tapi bersyukur pada Allah kerana memberi saya petunjuk.

Kita ni sebagai orang Islam.. kenalah tolong orang Islam, "support" perniagaan orang islam. Tapi yang berniaga pun kenalah cara orang islam. Jangan ingat nak untung je. Tak berkat. Layanan pun mestilah first class. Tengoklah Rasulullah berniaga, sampai Saidatina Khadijah jatuh hati dan terus pinang baginda. Walhal, Saidatina Khadijah tu memang orang kaya bangsawan, cantik yang menjadi rebutan pada masa itu. Saya baru je balik dari kedai Acheh.. Malam ni bersemangat nak masak!
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Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Air Asia oh Air Asia


My booking date was 30th June 2009. I just got everything settled by yesterday (21std July 2009). Honestly, it was partly myself to be blamed for the delay. But then, if it's not too difficult.. it would have been settled weeks ago.. So, just let me share with you what happened in case you need to deal with Air Asia.

It was not me actually.. flying anywhere, it's my son's teacher who is going back to Jakarta for Raya. We booked really early to get a cheaper fare. It was really cheap. Back and fro, it costed her only RM302.00 including tax, luggage as well as chosen seat for both ways compared to the normal RM600.00 she used to pay.

It would have really easy if I have a credit card instead of a debit card. The problem is, it was told in their site that payment could be made via Maybank2u. If I can make the payment via Maybank2u, it would have been really easy, but we couldn't so I'd try my debit card instead. However, there's an option for Debit Card, but then Maybank Visa (Debit Card) was not one of the options.

When I called up the first time, the salesperson (salesperson no. 1) asked me the time I tried to book the ticket and I told him just before midnight. He checked his computer and said.. it can be done now. The problem is, I told him, if I failed I have to call them again and .. their line is always busy. He simply asked me to try again. I hung up and tried again, still I could not make the payment.

Annoyed, I called them again, this time another salesperson (salesperson no. 2)said "why don't you click on the MEPs icon" I had to hang up since I was not in front of the computer.. (clever me) and I swear, there's no such icon. I had to call again, this time it was a different salesperson (salesperson 3), she told me that some of the flights are not supported by Maybank2u payment and suggested that I go to their sales counter at either KL Sentral or LLCT. Then, the problem would be solved. Okay... by this time I felt much better, at least she didn't ask me to click on an non-existent button. But is it worth it to go to KL Sentral or drive 50 minutes to LCCT?

The problem with paying at the post office is you have to book via the telephone. At this point, you are not able to choose a seat as it is not a confirmed booking. So, basically, I have to go to the post office and make the payment for the ticket and the tax (RM277.00+a whopping RM2.50 for the commission). Then, I have to call up again to choose a seat and luggage, and then go back to the post office and make the payment for it.

That's what I did. I paid for the booking. Exactly after I was out of the post office, I called up Air Asia and I told her I have already made the payment. She told me (salesperson 4), the payment is still pending. Asking where my location is, she told me, depending on the location of the post office, it may take 2 days to clear. Until the payment is clear, I can't pick my seat and pay for my luggage. What? That was another big mistake that I made. I actually made the payment at POS at Tesco instead of a big one. It may take a longer time to clear. [sigh]..

By this time, I called Azly (my husband) and tuuuuttt ttuuuutt ttuuuutt... I was really furious. I called my bestfriend, and told her I should have gone to her house for a favour of using her credit card and pay her cash. I really don't mind paying whatever commission and the service charge to her instead of all the hassle at the post office..

The next step was to wait two days for the payment to be cleared. So, I waited and received an email from AirAsia that my booking is confirmed. The next step was to call them and choose a seat, make the payment and get it confirmed. Easy right? Nope! This time, instead of going to the post office, I tried to make payment using my debit card. The salesperson (salesperson no 5) told me that he can try to charge it using my debit card. Then, I realized that I have taken all my money out to save all this RM1 charges when if I take out bit by bit. I only had RM22.00 in the account and the seat and luggage would cost me RM20.00 He told me it might not be possible. So, I told him, I'll call him later once I have transferred some money.

My husband transferred money in my account and I called them up again. This time, a lady salesperson (salesperson no 6) told me that I have to make payment by 15 July or the booking for the seat is cancelled. It was 14 July and I was furious as nobody told me that there was a dateline for the payment. I was just too busy with my son's sports day to be bothered with the payment. She told me, after the phone booking, I can't make any payment using POS Malaysia but have to pay at the sales counter instead (KL Sentral or LCCT). Debit card was also out of the question. #@!^&%!!! I argued. I told her I'm not driving to LCCT just to pay RM20.00. She put me on hold to ask her supervisor.

She agreed that I could pay at POS Malaysia and jotted down a note there. The problem is when it will take 2 days to clear and they might not hold my seat. Desperate, with my best friend's credit card no in my hand, I called them up and decided to make the payment for once and for all.. This time, a male salesperson with a very fluent native-like slang answered (salesperson no 7) and he called me MAM.. That was a good sign!

I told him about me wanting to make the payment using credit card.. As expected, he asked me to give him the card number and I gave it to him. Then, he asked me the card's expiry date (opps!!) as well as the security number at the back of the card. I hesitated, "I thought the security number is private and you are not supposed to share it with anyone". He patiently explained, when you are making an online transaction, of course it is dangerous to expose the number. But then, when you are making payment using phone booking, we cannot proceed unless we have the number". I was really confused. Okayla.. it was for security purposes. But I dare not take the risk.

Actually.. the security number was the reason why I didn't want to make the payment using my bestfriend's credit card. I simply don't want to know her security number though she does not really mind sharing with me since we are really close and she never doubted that I'd do any harm with her security number.

But then, I told her, I savior (is there such a word).. okayla.. I treasure our friendship more. In case anything happens with her credit card and it has nothing got to do with me.. of course it's gonna be really crazy I don't even want to imagine what will happen.

Anyway.. since it's gonna be a hassle, I decided to stick to making the payment at the post office. I told him that I was told earlier that the seat booking is reserved for me only if I the payment is clear by 15th July by midnight. "It's not advisable to make the payment at the post office if the date of the flight is near, mam" (that was about 2 months before the departure actually).. I told him the flight is not gonna be near soon, it's just the expiry date for my seat reserve. Still, he insisted that I should not make the payment at the post office if it's too near the date of the departure. I was even more confused. Then he gave me an option whether I can pay using credit card, or pay at the sales counter or the last option that he does not really favour is to pay at the gate on the departure itself. Blimey, it's like a never ending circle..

I suggested that he cancelled my seat booking and rebook, hoping that I'll get the chosen seat and a longer expiry date so that I don't have to worry about the payment being cleared before 15th July. My son's teacher told me that, if we don't choose any seat and pay in advance, you'll end up in a mess walking here and there looking for an empty seat and I understand completely. I myself would rather pay extra RM10.00 so that I can go straight to my chosen seat than the trouble of pushing here and there just to get a seat.

Perhaps he didn't get the idea.. or perhaps my Malaysian English does not match his native slang that he had trouble understanding. I told him I'll just pay and see what happens. He told me that once the payment is cleared, I'll get a confirmation (I assumed via e-mail like when I booked the flight).

After making the payment at the Bangi Post Office, I waited for the e-mail. I did asked POS Malaysia and they said it should be cleared by midnight the same day. I made the payment on the 14th, the payment was cleared on the 15th and yet on 21st, I still haven't received the e-mail. I called AirAsia for the final time. The salesperson (salesperson no 8) told me that if I have an account online, I can just check my booking under "Manage my Booking". But then, lucky me, I quickly remembered that I did ask my husband to check my booking online but he did mention to me that it was not possible to check online when you make phone booking. He received like.. you are not authorized to blah blah blah. I told this to her and she said she'll e-mail me the details. That was the only time when I got it straight on the spot. A few minutes after that, I received my e-mail.. confirming my luggage payment as well as the seat. Finally.. Alhamdulillah.. It was a loonnngg journey to Jakarta.. even before you board the flight..

I printed the e-mail and asked my son to send straight to the teacher. She was relieved. Imagine, she gave me RM300.00 cash. That was at the end of June, and she finally received the booking detail on 21st July. Luckily.. the date of the booking as well as the date of payment was stated in the e-mail which is 30th June. I really don't want her to think that I must have used the money first..

At the same time, I learnt a lot of new things. Honestly (and surprisingly).. I have this fobia of dealing with people whom I don't know on the phone. It's just awkward to pick up the phone and talk to strangers. But then, knowing that someone relied on me for the ticket and it actually save her RM300.00, I braved myself and did it anyway.. In return, I managed to overcome my fear and learnt it the hard way.. I thank Allah for the lesson. Normally, I'll just get my husband to do any phone call like this..

Hopefully, if there is any next time.. I know exactly how to do it.. Or perhaps, I should have just brought a notebook, went online and get someone to pay using their credit card and pay straight to them.. or the best thing is to go straight to their ticketing counter though it takes 50 minutes of driving but I can just get it done and over with there and then rather that making a few phone calls and go through all the hassle..

My phone bill is higher that usual.. not because of the number of phone calls that I made to Air Asia but the waiting time.. listening to their "konon2nya" soothing music and the prompts "Thank you for calling Air Asia, All of our salepersons are busy, blah blah blah..or feel free to call us back later" after every 15 seconds.. But then.. the experience is PRICELESS!
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